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Risky Frottage
Dear Doctor HHH,
Let me thank you first for a commendable job you are doing.
Doctor, I went to a massage parlour. All that happened was handjob and Frottage. I had used protection but what I screwed was that I wore two condoms. Secondly I rubbed my genitals all over her body. I am not sexually active and did this for the first time. Past few days I started with lose motions for 1 Day. Fever for 2 days. Cough and cold for 10 days and pain in armpit, groin and neck for 2 days followed by pimples on my body for past a week ( am assuming they are shingles). Li'l weight loss and fatigue.
Doctor I without putting much thought to it kept having unsafe sex with my wife.
Doctor my Q's are
1. What are my odds of being safe
2. Do I need to confirm this with a test
3. If am diagnosed with HIV(only based on this incident), can I continue to live a healthy life and live for good 20 years?
Please help me Dr. HHH.
God bless
Dying in fear everyday
Let me thank you first for a commendable job you are doing.
Doctor, I went to a massage parlour. All that happened was handjob and Frottage. I had used protection but what I screwed was that I wore two condoms. Secondly I rubbed my genitals all over her body. I am not sexually active and did this for the first time. Past few days I started with lose motions for 1 Day. Fever for 2 days. Cough and cold for 10 days and pain in armpit, groin and neck for 2 days followed by pimples on my body for past a week ( am assuming they are shingles). Li'l weight loss and fatigue.
Doctor I without putting much thought to it kept having unsafe sex with my wife.
Doctor my Q's are
1. What are my odds of being safe
2. Do I need to confirm this with a test
3. If am diagnosed with HIV(only based on this incident), can I continue to live a healthy life and live for good 20 years?
Please help me Dr. HHH.
God bless
Dying in fear everyday
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
No change in my assessment.
Any further questions will be deleted without comment. Your problem is not HIV- it may possibly be guilt and anxiety. EWH
Any further questions will be deleted without comment. Your problem is not HIV- it may possibly be guilt and anxiety. EWH
dear doc. Please don't delete me.. As overtime I look at this gives me a lotta assurance and peace. Can't afford again. It cost me high in indian monies. However allow me to ask only one follow up a d swear not to repeat. I have been having a lotta pain in my glands both groin and armpits. As if somethings stuck between there. Does this by chance change your assessment ? I mean I feel softness of swelling. Can you tell me that am I no where in the bracket of risk? God bless...
PS.. Please don't delete me.. Please
PS.. Please don't delete me.. Please
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Please do not repeately post, Repeated posts will be deleted.
Please read my original comment. No risk, No need for testing. End of discussion. EWH
Please read my original comment. No risk, No need for testing. End of discussion. EWH
Dear Dr. Hook. would appreciate your final verdict on my last post. Thanks for your support. am already at peace. your last word will take away all my dreadful worries. Thanks
thanks for the assessment Doctor. I really appreciate it. Unaware if am allowed to ask a second Q. I got myself medically evaluated. Was diagnosed with nothing. Didn't do a HIV test though for this incident. Is why I was worried. Based on what you have mentioned can I be rest assured am all safe and move on with my spouse.. most of all No HIV test for me? Please do help me with this Dr. I really care for my wife and feel wasted after cheating on her. Thanks a million for your support. God bless
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Dr. Handsfield and I share the forum. You got me. FYI, the reason we share the forum is because we have worked together for nearly 30 years and while our verbiage styles vary, we have never disagreed on management strategies or advice to clients.
Risky Frottage is a contradiction in terms. Forget about being at risk for HIV from the activities you describe; all of what you describe is masturbation and masturbation is safe sex. You did not penetrate her in any way and your exposure to her secretions was minimal. No risk to you for acquisition of HIV or any other STD. Please realize that in the course of masturbation miniscule amounts of genital secretions are inadvertently shared between partners, nonetheless there are no HIV transmissions which have occurred in this way. Not ever.
As for your rash, I do not know what it is from your description and I suspect neither do you. I would suggest you get evaluated by a health care provider. If this is shingles, that does not change my assessment. Most people who get shingles do not have HIV.
As for your other symptoms, they too are non-specific and could be due to almost anything, HIV being among the least likely. When people experience "ARS symptoms" they are much more likely to have something else, usually some other, more typical virus infection. When this has been studied in the US, less than 1% of persons seeking medical care for "ARS symptoms" are found to have HIV, the remainder having symptoms due to other processes. In contrast, over a given year, there is almost no one who has not had a viral illness, night sweats or both (sometimes on multiple occasions). In addition, it is also important to realize that many persons who acquire HIV do not experience the ARS. For a person to try to judge their HIV risk based on "ARS symptoms" is a waste of time.
Bottom line, no risk, no need to testing. You did not get HIV from the exposure you describe. If you have health concerns, you should go to see your own doctor for evaluation and can do so without concern that you have HIV. Hope this helps. EWH
Risky Frottage is a contradiction in terms. Forget about being at risk for HIV from the activities you describe; all of what you describe is masturbation and masturbation is safe sex. You did not penetrate her in any way and your exposure to her secretions was minimal. No risk to you for acquisition of HIV or any other STD. Please realize that in the course of masturbation miniscule amounts of genital secretions are inadvertently shared between partners, nonetheless there are no HIV transmissions which have occurred in this way. Not ever.
As for your rash, I do not know what it is from your description and I suspect neither do you. I would suggest you get evaluated by a health care provider. If this is shingles, that does not change my assessment. Most people who get shingles do not have HIV.
As for your other symptoms, they too are non-specific and could be due to almost anything, HIV being among the least likely. When people experience "ARS symptoms" they are much more likely to have something else, usually some other, more typical virus infection. When this has been studied in the US, less than 1% of persons seeking medical care for "ARS symptoms" are found to have HIV, the remainder having symptoms due to other processes. In contrast, over a given year, there is almost no one who has not had a viral illness, night sweats or both (sometimes on multiple occasions). In addition, it is also important to realize that many persons who acquire HIV do not experience the ARS. For a person to try to judge their HIV risk based on "ARS symptoms" is a waste of time.
Bottom line, no risk, no need to testing. You did not get HIV from the exposure you describe. If you have health concerns, you should go to see your own doctor for evaluation and can do so without concern that you have HIV. Hope this helps. EWH
sorry doctor. Forgot to mention that there was no intercourse no fellatio. I swear by god what I mentioned above is exactly what happened. I don't know her HIV status. Thanks.
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