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Hello, I am a 36 year old heterosexual male in a long term relationship. Two days ago I went to an Asian massage parlor with no intentions other than a massage. When she flipped me over she started sucking on my penis. It caught me off guard, I was turned on, and ejaculated between 20 and 30 seconds. I quickly got dressed and got out of there. After about 15-20 minutes I slathered hand sanitizer all over my penis (ouch).
The anxiety has been UNBEARABLE, taking Xanax to help calm me down. Another note, I drink a lot of caffeine and I try to stay hydrated but I’m not always peeing clear. My urethra usually hurts slightly when I pee, especially when I ejaculate a lot.
I went back the next day and had her let me examine the inside of her mouth with a flashlight (ballsy, I know). I couldn’t see anything weird. She assured me she’s healthy.
I understand the chances of HIV are probably low. What about all of the other STDs? And when should I go get tested?
Thank you!
The anxiety has been UNBEARABLE, taking Xanax to help calm me down. Another note, I drink a lot of caffeine and I try to stay hydrated but I’m not always peeing clear. My urethra usually hurts slightly when I pee, especially when I ejaculate a lot.
I went back the next day and had her let me examine the inside of her mouth with a flashlight (ballsy, I know). I couldn’t see anything weird. She assured me she’s healthy.
I understand the chances of HIV are probably low. What about all of the other STDs? And when should I go get tested?
Thank you!
As mentioned, there is zero risk for HIV in your situation. Air and saliva inactive the virus. The only risks for HIV transmission are for those who have unprotected vaginal or anal sex or share IV needles to inject drugs. As to STD's, I see you asked on the STD forum about that. But no hiv isk
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (mouth, body etc.). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
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Thank you. I guess my bigger concern is other STDs. I looked in her mouth to see if I could spot open lesions that may indicate STD infection
I have no idea what you thought you would see in a person's mouth but hiv virus is only detectable with a test. However since you had no risk there is no virus to test for. You can't prevent any hiv or any other std with hand sanitizer after being infected so don't do that painful thing again either.
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