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Was I Ever At Risk? Need your advise please
Hi Doctor
First of all i would like to thank you for your service in this website, it really helped me getting over my anxiety sometimes. But i just want a reassurance from you personally so i can get better sleep and move on. I am a heterosexual male aged 21.
Exposures:
1) My Ex, had unprotected oral sex with her everytime, and unprotected vaginal sex only once. This was in China, and she was a student, she only turned 18 recently.
2) about 1 month ago, i got really curious about anal stimulation...don't ask me why, so i bought a dildo from adult store for myself and used it on my rectum. but the thing that concerned me was that the package of the sex toy was not sealed properly and opened really easily(i suspected someone might have used it before me),i did have a rough visual examination on the dildo before i used it, and it was not wet or anything...seemed new(well it was meant to be new), and i didn't cleaned it before i used it nor did i used it with a condom. from the time i got to the shop till i used the dildo, has been about 1 hr.
3) last week i was working and i had to take out the rubbish, but the bin flipped over and i had to pick all the rubbish up, i realised there were used condoms in there(possible wet fluids), and tissue papers with blood on it (seemed dry but not too sure). but i picked the rubbish up anyways however without a glove(not toos sure if i touched the tissue). then i stepped on a used condom then a few seconds later i accident it scraped my skin on the other ankle with the bottom of my shoe, the cut wasn't bleeding as far as i could remember, but the outer layer (thin layer) of the skin did break and showed some redness. the condoms and tissue had been in there for at least 15 mins i would say.
Was i at any risk at all? sum up all the 3 exposures what would you say my risk is? 1in..? which of the 3 exposures were the most riskiest? and do i need HIV testing? should i even be worried from the start?
First of all i would like to thank you for your service in this website, it really helped me getting over my anxiety sometimes. But i just want a reassurance from you personally so i can get better sleep and move on. I am a heterosexual male aged 21.
Exposures:
1) My Ex, had unprotected oral sex with her everytime, and unprotected vaginal sex only once. This was in China, and she was a student, she only turned 18 recently.
2) about 1 month ago, i got really curious about anal stimulation...don't ask me why, so i bought a dildo from adult store for myself and used it on my rectum. but the thing that concerned me was that the package of the sex toy was not sealed properly and opened really easily(i suspected someone might have used it before me),i did have a rough visual examination on the dildo before i used it, and it was not wet or anything...seemed new(well it was meant to be new), and i didn't cleaned it before i used it nor did i used it with a condom. from the time i got to the shop till i used the dildo, has been about 1 hr.
3) last week i was working and i had to take out the rubbish, but the bin flipped over and i had to pick all the rubbish up, i realised there were used condoms in there(possible wet fluids), and tissue papers with blood on it (seemed dry but not too sure). but i picked the rubbish up anyways however without a glove(not toos sure if i touched the tissue). then i stepped on a used condom then a few seconds later i accident it scraped my skin on the other ankle with the bottom of my shoe, the cut wasn't bleeding as far as i could remember, but the outer layer (thin layer) of the skin did break and showed some redness. the condoms and tissue had been in there for at least 15 mins i would say.
Was i at any risk at all? sum up all the 3 exposures what would you say my risk is? 1in..? which of the 3 exposures were the most riskiest? and do i need HIV testing? should i even be worried from the start?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Whether this was your last question or not, this will be your last answer. Further questions will be deleted without comment. You are asking hypothetical "what if" questions. The situations you described were no risk. If some pathalogical HIV infected person used the dilo you bought and then resold it, HIV virus would not survive the trip home before you used it. In addition, HIV is not spread by scapes of the sort you describe. You are more likely to get hit by a runaway glacier while reading this than to get HIV from the situations you have described.
The thread is over. EWH
The thread is over. EWH
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to our Forum You have very, very little to worry about. Let's work through your 3 questions:
1. It sounds as though your ex was low risk and unless she had had multiple partners in the past, there is little risk for STD or HIV from the contacts you describe with her.
2. There is no risk of STD or HIV from your experimentation with a dildo in the fashion that you describe.
3. STDs and HIV are not spread by toughing or by the situation in which infected material might be transferred to you from the bottom of your shoe. The situation you describe has no risk whatsoever for you.
Bottom line, there is no risk at all from the situations described in 2 and 3 and your risk in situation number 1 is very, very low. If you have any concerns, although there is little medical reason for testing, if being tested will give you peace of mind, then I would encourage you to do so, once, as long as you are sure that you will accept and believe the results of testing. I am confident they will be negative.
I hope this comment is helpful to you. EWH
1. It sounds as though your ex was low risk and unless she had had multiple partners in the past, there is little risk for STD or HIV from the contacts you describe with her.
2. There is no risk of STD or HIV from your experimentation with a dildo in the fashion that you describe.
3. STDs and HIV are not spread by toughing or by the situation in which infected material might be transferred to you from the bottom of your shoe. The situation you describe has no risk whatsoever for you.
Bottom line, there is no risk at all from the situations described in 2 and 3 and your risk in situation number 1 is very, very low. If you have any concerns, although there is little medical reason for testing, if being tested will give you peace of mind, then I would encourage you to do so, once, as long as you are sure that you will accept and believe the results of testing. I am confident they will be negative.
I hope this comment is helpful to you. EWH
thank you doctor for your help i will forget all of this and move on. thank you
sorry i meant situation 2 for the dildo
Sorry doctor i know i said my last post was the last one, but i still have one more question, this will really put my mind to ease and i would really appreciate it if u answer it.
If the dildo was used by a HIV positive men or women(situation 1), and the condom that i stepped on with my shoe and later scrapped my other ankle with the shoe was infected with HIV, will i be at risk of contracting HIV? could HIV survive on the dildo for 30mins or so? and could HIV acsorbed by the scrapped skin?
If the dildo was used by a HIV positive men or women(situation 1), and the condom that i stepped on with my shoe and later scrapped my other ankle with the shoe was infected with HIV, will i be at risk of contracting HIV? could HIV survive on the dildo for 30mins or so? and could HIV acsorbed by the scrapped skin?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
correct. EWH
i mean the cut on the skin wasn't deep but there were some degree of redness. But ok, this is my final question. The only thing that puts me at a tiny risk is situation 1, and that if purely based on 2 and 3 the risk of contracting HIV is zero?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
The idea that a newly purchased dildo would be infected with HIV or other STDs is just not plausible and with respect to number 3, the fact is that non-penetrative contact with infected genital secretions, (not that you know this happened) does not lead to infection. This is both because the virus does not live long outside of the body and because the virus does not pass through skin or scrapes in a way that leads to infection. EWH
Thanks Doctor for answering i was really surprised that this will get answered so quickly. but if possible i would like you to explain a bit more on my situation 2 and 3. I was really surprised you said there was no risk for 2 and 3, is it because HIV can not survive outside the host for long? is say...20 - 30 mins enough to kill the virus outside the body (people say HIV could survive in porous materials like rubber for very long).
Funny thing is that the thing that worries me the most is 2 and 3. and 1 i rarely even think about it now, because i realised it was wrong to assume she was positive like that, she was an innocent girl. so if i don't worry about situation 1 anymore, do you think it is necessary to take a HIV test based on 2 and 3? and just purely based on 2 and 3 what would you say my risk are? 1 in millions or zero?
Funny thing is that the thing that worries me the most is 2 and 3. and 1 i rarely even think about it now, because i realised it was wrong to assume she was positive like that, she was an innocent girl. so if i don't worry about situation 1 anymore, do you think it is necessary to take a HIV test based on 2 and 3? and just purely based on 2 and 3 what would you say my risk are? 1 in millions or zero?
my ex wasnt from any high risk group or anything, never use drugs never dated a person from a high risk group. and i feel really guilty using dildo on myself, i was just curious about different sexual pleasures, i regret it so much. but i read from the internet that some heterosexuals likes anal stimulations as well, that made me feel a little less weird about myself. And i am strictly heterosexual, but likes to experiment with different things sometimes. is this wrong?
the exposure with my ex was about 1 and a half years ago, sorry forgot to add that in
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