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I feel like I wanna die now. I am in a very tricky situation.I ave been dating this girl for 1and half years we have never had sex and wasnt aware of her positive status.On the 16th of december 2012 we went out and at first i ejaculated outside.i inSERTED my penis and ejaculate just after about 30 seconds.I later wore a condom then we lasted about 3 minutes.She is a girlfriend…………. and listen I have a wife.After about 5 days she called me and told me she was positive.I went for tests on the 31st of december and was negative.i didnt have the guts to tell my wife but was lucky to use protection till she had her contraception ready.Iam stressed because i might have infected my wife and my nursing son in the process.I am waiting for final tests in April..Believe me Iam so so so much stressed.I wish I die.
I was strong to tell my wife yesterday,instead she felt sorry for me.what are my chances / odds of contracting the virus especially that i had a second round with a condom?
Well, unfortunately, you had a risk by having unprotected sex with someone who is positive. This doesn't mean you will definitely become infected. You need to test for HIV and be SURE to consistently wear condoms with your wife until you have a conclusively negative HIV test at 3 months post exposure. She also could be at risk for other STDs, so condoms are a MUST!
You can take a DUO test at 4 weeks post exposure that will ease your mind a little bit, but again, you should take a standard antibody test at 3 months, to be sure you weren't infected.
You also need to be sure you've tested for all other STDs in the proper time frame as well. Your doctor, or a clinic can advise you what to test for, and when.
As for telling your wife, that's totally up to you.
You can take a DUO test at 4 weeks post exposure that will ease your mind a little bit, but again, you should take a standard antibody test at 3 months, to be sure you weren't infected.
You also need to be sure you've tested for all other STDs in the proper time frame as well. Your doctor, or a clinic can advise you what to test for, and when.
As for telling your wife, that's totally up to you.
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