What are the chances of me getting HIV?

[Andrew102281]

Hi,

I recently met someone and tried to have sex with them on April 6th.There was foreplay and oral sex but for intercourse I couldnt stay hard and had performance anxiety so the tip touched but there was no penetration.there was rubbing of my penis and vagina but we stopped.i got hard and tried to pentrate and it touched and rubbed her vagina, and when i went to enter,it got soft but there was no ejactulation or vaginal fluids.Ive asked them countless times if they were clean and they said yes.I know its my fault so dont tell me im stupid.

Is it possible i couldve gotten HIV?What are the percentages of anything since i did have performance problems?I took a STD blood test the day before i saw her and i came back all negative.I had a rash a few weeks ago and today(5-27) i have a bit of sore throat.I want to get a blood test in July.

Also,another issue...I had some slight discharge after i saw her and went to go see doctor a few ago.They did a urine test and came back negative but they gave me 1000 mg of z-pack to kill any bacteria if any was there.I still have discharge ater taking the 1000mg of 2 z-pack(500 mg x 2).Is it possible I have something?Should I get a swab test?

Please give me the best advice available?

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

That information suggests your partner is at very low risk for HIV.  Don't ask your doctor for specific tests; describe the exposure and your concerns and let him or her decide whether or what STDs you need testing for.  My view is that if this exposure is your only potential risk, you don't need testing for HIV or any other STD.  But maybe your doctor will recommend testing for reassurance.

Almost certainly your sore throat is due to the same sort of thing that causes 99.99% of sore throats -- a garden variety respiratory virus or, if really severe, maybe a strep throat.  It has nothing to do with the sexual encounter you are worried about.

[Andrew102281]

So,should I get a blood test next week for all std's and HIV when I go to doctor?what do you think this sore throat could be from?I havent had alot of sex partners.I think my partner used to do marijuana but no needles or commercial sex worker.

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Welcome to the forum.

HIV is harder to transmit than you apparently realize.  With unprotected vaginal sex with an infected, transmission occurs only once for every 2,000 events.  That's equivalent to having sex with infected women once a day for 5 years before tranmission might be expected.  The virus cannot be transmitted by the superficial, brief contact you describe.  And unless your partner was an injection drug user or commercial sex worker, it is exceedingly unlikely she had HIV anyway.

But since you're worried, having a blood test is a good idea -- not because there was any real risk, but for reassurance.  You don't need to wait until July to be tested.  This 3 month business until accurate results is simply wrong.  With the standard antibody tests, 6 weeks is plenty; and if you look for a clinic that offers the combo test for both HIV antibody and p24 antigen, 4 weeks is enough.  In other words, you could be tested tomorrow with either test -- and the negative result will prove you weren't infected.

If you're really having abnomral urethral discharge, you should be reexamined and perhaps re-treated.  However, if you have any STD, it isn't from the exposure described.  Just as for HIV, you can't get urethral STDs (gonorrhea, chlamydia, nongonococcal urethritis) with the brief, superficial contact you describe.

Bottom lines:  Don't worry about HIV, but get tested for reassurance; and get reexamined for your discharge if you're sure it's abnormal.  However, I doubt it is anything serious.

I hope this helps.  Best wishes--  HHH, MD