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What is my risk from these 3 experiences I had?
Over the past months I had 3 different sexual experiences that i would like to know the risk of.
The first was with a guy, where we performed oral on each other, using a condom at all times
The second experience was with a woman, she performed oral on me without a condom and we had penetrative vaginal sex, using a condom. It was quite rough, so I am unsure of what that has to say. We had sex multiple times over the course of 8 or so hours.
The third time was with a sex worker. It was anal sex with a condom, she performed oral on my and cunnilingus on me. I also licked her and perofrmed oral on her. There was also heavy kissing.
My 2 main concerns is that specially in the last 2 scenarios, I did not check if the condom broke or not, so I am unsure if I was protected the whole time.
I also had 2 very large canker sores in my mouth, and since I heard that the risk goes up when you have open sores, me having performed oral as well as kissing the last 2 girls made me worry that perhaps I may have gotten infected through my 2 open sores in my mouth.
What are my risk from those 3 separate incidents, specially when taken into consideration that I do not know if the condom broke or not and that I also had 2 open canker sores?
The first was with a guy, where we performed oral on each other, using a condom at all times
The second experience was with a woman, she performed oral on me without a condom and we had penetrative vaginal sex, using a condom. It was quite rough, so I am unsure of what that has to say. We had sex multiple times over the course of 8 or so hours.
The third time was with a sex worker. It was anal sex with a condom, she performed oral on my and cunnilingus on me. I also licked her and perofrmed oral on her. There was also heavy kissing.
My 2 main concerns is that specially in the last 2 scenarios, I did not check if the condom broke or not, so I am unsure if I was protected the whole time.
I also had 2 very large canker sores in my mouth, and since I heard that the risk goes up when you have open sores, me having performed oral as well as kissing the last 2 girls made me worry that perhaps I may have gotten infected through my 2 open sores in my mouth.
What are my risk from those 3 separate incidents, specially when taken into consideration that I do not know if the condom broke or not and that I also had 2 open canker sores?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question.
You are no risk for HIV, for practical purposes, for the exposures described. Condoms work, and if they do not break wide open, protection is complete. (The idea of microscopic or very small leaks is an urban myth. I do not recommend inspection or filing of condoms with water to check for leaks after use.) Oral sex is very nearly zero risk for HIV, even without a condom, and kissing has never been known to transmit HIV, regardless of canker or other sores in the mouth.
From a medical or risk standpoint, therefore, you don't need testing for HIV at this time, except perhaps for the extra reassurance you may gain from the negative result. (At a personal level, if I were in your situation I would not feel a need to do it and would continue unprotected sex with my wife without worry.)
If your sexual lifestyle and choices are consistently as implied by the three events above, you can expect to go a lifetime without ever catching HIV. The only additional strategy I recommend is that you always ask new partners -- especially males -- about their HIV status and avoid sex, or be even more attentive to safe practices, with those who are positive (and not on treatment), don't know, or seem evasive about it. (You may do this now, but you don't say so.)
As for testing, I would advise you and others with similar lifestyles to pretty much ignore individual sexual exposures unless especially high risk, e.g. If a condom ruptures with an HIV infected or especially high risk partner. Instead, regular periodic testing for HIV and other common STDs (gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis), e.g. once a year.
Of course you are free to be tested at this time. If you do so, you definitely can expect a negative result.
Best regards-- HHH, MD
You are no risk for HIV, for practical purposes, for the exposures described. Condoms work, and if they do not break wide open, protection is complete. (The idea of microscopic or very small leaks is an urban myth. I do not recommend inspection or filing of condoms with water to check for leaks after use.) Oral sex is very nearly zero risk for HIV, even without a condom, and kissing has never been known to transmit HIV, regardless of canker or other sores in the mouth.
From a medical or risk standpoint, therefore, you don't need testing for HIV at this time, except perhaps for the extra reassurance you may gain from the negative result. (At a personal level, if I were in your situation I would not feel a need to do it and would continue unprotected sex with my wife without worry.)
If your sexual lifestyle and choices are consistently as implied by the three events above, you can expect to go a lifetime without ever catching HIV. The only additional strategy I recommend is that you always ask new partners -- especially males -- about their HIV status and avoid sex, or be even more attentive to safe practices, with those who are positive (and not on treatment), don't know, or seem evasive about it. (You may do this now, but you don't say so.)
As for testing, I would advise you and others with similar lifestyles to pretty much ignore individual sexual exposures unless especially high risk, e.g. If a condom ruptures with an HIV infected or especially high risk partner. Instead, regular periodic testing for HIV and other common STDs (gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis), e.g. once a year.
Of course you are free to be tested at this time. If you do so, you definitely can expect a negative result.
Best regards-- HHH, MD
I meant over the past month, not months. It hasn't been long enough yet to test for HIV
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