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When can I resume relations with a monogamous partner?
I suffer from anxiety and obsessive thought patterns. With that said, I read the archives and found similar but not exact situations.
Recently I met a girl on the internet who would have had unprotected sex with me that night. I went and saw her the following day. When I arrived she was just getting out of the shower. Not sure if she had just brushed her teeth or not. She has a tongue ring she said she had for about 1.5 years.
We laid on her bed, I was fully clothed, she was nude from the waste down. We had a brief open mouth kiss. Our tongues touched for a few seconds. Followed by a few closed mouth kisses. I did also put my lips on her neck.
I used my finger to masturbate her. I never put my finger fully inside of her body so there was no penetration. I examined my finger afterwards and there were no visible cuts, scratches or sores that I could see.
After this I left, I never touched my eyes, nose or mouth with that hand. When I arrived home I used antibacterial hand cleanser for about 15 minutes and disinfected the inside of my car.
Prior to this I had been completely monogamous for years. The following week I had an HIV test and it came back negative. I am going to get another rapid test at about 28 days. My question is,
1) if this rapid test comes back negative at 28 days could I feel safe enough to resume relations with my female monogamous partner?
2) should I worry about the tongue ring?
Recently I met a girl on the internet who would have had unprotected sex with me that night. I went and saw her the following day. When I arrived she was just getting out of the shower. Not sure if she had just brushed her teeth or not. She has a tongue ring she said she had for about 1.5 years.
We laid on her bed, I was fully clothed, she was nude from the waste down. We had a brief open mouth kiss. Our tongues touched for a few seconds. Followed by a few closed mouth kisses. I did also put my lips on her neck.
I used my finger to masturbate her. I never put my finger fully inside of her body so there was no penetration. I examined my finger afterwards and there were no visible cuts, scratches or sores that I could see.
After this I left, I never touched my eyes, nose or mouth with that hand. When I arrived home I used antibacterial hand cleanser for about 15 minutes and disinfected the inside of my car.
Prior to this I had been completely monogamous for years. The following week I had an HIV test and it came back negative. I am going to get another rapid test at about 28 days. My question is,
1) if this rapid test comes back negative at 28 days could I feel safe enough to resume relations with my female monogamous partner?
2) should I worry about the tongue ring?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
You're welcome. Take care. EWH
Thank you for taking my question and for the reassurance.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Your concerns are entirely baseless. So much so that for you testing is a waste of time. Touching does not transmit HIV, nor does kissing. I will not comment on when to test since the exposure you describe is no risk
You can re-start relations with your partner at any time since you are at no risk.
The tongue ring is irrelevant.
Calm down and move on. EWH
You can re-start relations with your partner at any time since you are at no risk.
The tongue ring is irrelevant.
Calm down and move on. EWH
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