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Worried about hiv

I've already posted a question about this encounter but I've received more information today.  I gave a gay man a blow job on 12/22.  It was unprotected and he came in my mouth, I spit it out.  I, nor he had any noticable cuts in my mouth or his penis.  
I developed a dry throat about 1/7 it has slowly gotten worse, no cough.  Around 1/10 my lymph nodes under my arms began to ache.  They are still tender, and the little red bumpon my tounge are swollen.  On 1/13 I had a syphilis test which came back negative. (I now know that  is to early to be accurate) and yesterday I got my throat swabbed for gono and clymidia, results pending.  Today he told me he has had unprotected sex with men and hasnt been tested in 5 years.  He also has light Parkinson's
, so I'm not sure he would notice sti symptoms
What are my risks of HIV?  IM SCARED!  I've read its uncommon but so are my symptoms.
I've been tested for covid and it was neg.
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (penis,  fluid, maybe blood etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are only 3 ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure.
You've already been advised on the sti forum that you wasted your time self diagnosing your lymph so really need to stop obsessing over that - you don't have any medical training and don't know what your lymph is supposed to feel like. Same with you "little tongue bumps" which likely were there before. Dry throat - see doc if concerned instead of wasting so much time thinking it proves it can only be one of the few diseases that you know of.
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