From Australia

[worriedozzie]

G'day Dr.

Before i post my question, i appreciate the help you provide on these forums. About a month back, i had an exposure, which was kinda of strange, i tried the 'online' resource', unfortunatley i could not find it... i post with hope that you might provide me with an answer...

I picked up a girl from the bar,  she told me she had a boyfriend.however,  we both were a couple of beers down, we decide to come home and have sex in the heat of the moment. However, when i came home i realised i had no condoms, therefore, we engaged in kissing and nipple sucking etc.... ( no oral, vaginal or anal sex)

But then, as we progressed further, i removed her clothes and vice-versa. I was on my underwear and she was naked. She sat on me ( naked) and grinded against my penis( it was in the underwear)... later i pushed her down( to be in the normal sex position) and i was pushing against her vagina with my penis ( humping,  the underwear was always on), and i ejaculated whilst doing so... i dont think i entered her... but it does worry me... am i at risk? or if i consider the worst come scenario, where we enaged in frottage... would that change the equation? i mean while frottage if i  ejaculated? but then honestly,  i didnt get the feeling which you usually get, from what i understand, when you engage in uprotected sex... ( from what my mates told me)

From that day, i have faced no symptoms except anxiety... i have become more smarter and i would engage in protected sex, which kinda of makes me comfortable...

look forward to hear from you

thanks

cheers

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Welcome to the forum.  I'll try to help.  The bottom line is that you cannot catch HIV from the sorts of exposures you describe.  Congratulations for resisting temptation, i.e. for not having intercourse because you did not have a condom handy.  It indicates a smart approach that will serve you well and keep you free of HIV now and forever.

Very briefly, because the identical questions have been asked innumerable times; you can search for lots of discussions.  The main points are:  Statistically it is extremely unlikely your parter had HIV, which remains rare in western countries (including Australia) in heterosexuals without special risk factors; HIV is never transmitted by kissing or oral contact anywhere on the body, including (usually) oral-genital contact; HIV cannot be transmitted through clothing.  HIV is harder to transmit than many people realize, and with rare exceptions, if a bare penis is not inserted into a vagina or anus, there no risk of transmission.

In my opinion, Australia's sexual health centres comprise the world's very best network of STD/HIV clinics.  If you remain nervous about this event, you could visit your nearest SHC, where you can expect reassurance similar to mine.  (If you select the Melbourne or Sydney SHC, give my personal regards.) (See if you recognize the background of my photo at the top of this forum.)

Bottom line:  No worries.  You do not need HIV testing.  Search the forum for other questions like yours, for lots of similarly reassuring discussions.

Regards--  HHH, MD

[worriedozzie]

Dear Dr,

I value your opinion, your skills and expertise and if you say i was not at risk, so will be  the case... i wont be worrying anymore and practice safe sex...

I am hopping with joy to learn i am free of worry :)

thankyou so much for your response...god bless you

kind regards