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Doctor can you put some sense back in me??
first I would like to thank everybody that has anything to do with this exeptional web-site.
doctor i am trying to keep my cool and think rationally but i simply can't. i had 4 exposures outside of my marrage in my life and they all are with in the past two years.
1) it was in feb of 2008 it was condom protected but i had condom faliuer that night i tested twice after that at 4 months and at 6 months both came out -ve.
2) it was in october 2008 it was non penetrative sex becuase i had no condom with me that night but we did rub our genitals toghether for a while till i came.
3) it was in decmber of 2008 it was twice condom protected vaginal and twice non condom protected oral. i have developed a swallen lymph node in the neack nearlly 2 months a fter that and its still wity me (its not painfull) I bought 4 test kits from te internet and tested with them 4 times at more than 4 1/2 months after that and they all came -ve.
4) it was in a month and 1/2 ago it was twice condom protected vaginal and twice non condom protected oral i developed a lymph node that was painfull in my underjaw area for a week and it went away.
whats killing me is that i had unprotected sex with my wife and i really wouldnt like to hurt her.
i will test in a months time for my life insurance porposus and my employer is paying for it i am really afraid that i will test +ve. what are my chances??
doctor i am trying to keep my cool and think rationally but i simply can't. i had 4 exposures outside of my marrage in my life and they all are with in the past two years.
1) it was in feb of 2008 it was condom protected but i had condom faliuer that night i tested twice after that at 4 months and at 6 months both came out -ve.
2) it was in october 2008 it was non penetrative sex becuase i had no condom with me that night but we did rub our genitals toghether for a while till i came.
3) it was in decmber of 2008 it was twice condom protected vaginal and twice non condom protected oral. i have developed a swallen lymph node in the neack nearlly 2 months a fter that and its still wity me (its not painfull) I bought 4 test kits from te internet and tested with them 4 times at more than 4 1/2 months after that and they all came -ve.
4) it was in a month and 1/2 ago it was twice condom protected vaginal and twice non condom protected oral i developed a lymph node that was painfull in my underjaw area for a week and it went away.
whats killing me is that i had unprotected sex with my wife and i really wouldnt like to hurt her.
i will test in a months time for my life insurance porposus and my employer is paying for it i am really afraid that i will test +ve. what are my chances??
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Welcome to the Forum. I will try to clarify your risks. From the tone of your post, I presume most of the exposures you have described are with commercial sex workers (CSWs). I will frame my responses in that way and, if I'm in correct in my assumptions, please then consider all that I say to be at least a 10-fold over estimate of your risk.
Risk for HIV is determined by whether or not the person you have sex with has HIV or not, how many exposures you have had, sites of exposure and whether or not condoms are used. In your case, my summary assessment is that your risk is low. Here is why:
1. Most commercial sex workers do not have HIV. There is geographic variation in how common HIV is among CSWs but again, most do not have the i infection, world-wide.
2. Even if your sex partner has infection, a single sex act is very unlikely to transmit HIV. There is virtually no risk for HIV acquisition from unprotected oral sex and the risk, if your partner is infected, for vaginal sex is only 1 infection per 1000 exposures.
3. Condoms are very, very effective for preventing HIV if used corrected and they do not fail, reducing risk for HIV by 99.9% over and above the figures I provided above.
With this as background, there was virtually no risk for HIV from your oral or condom protected exposures. This leaves only the episode in Feb 08 when your condom failed and yo have had HIV tests which are negative since then. Thus to summarize, the chance that you have HIV form the exposures you describe is virtually zero. The insurance-related HIV test you have soon will be negative.
As far as your symptoms, the symptoms you describe, including lymph node swelling are very non-specific and in your case are virtually certainly not due to HIV.
You have nothing to worry about from the exposures you describe. your wife is not in danger. EWH
Risk for HIV is determined by whether or not the person you have sex with has HIV or not, how many exposures you have had, sites of exposure and whether or not condoms are used. In your case, my summary assessment is that your risk is low. Here is why:
1. Most commercial sex workers do not have HIV. There is geographic variation in how common HIV is among CSWs but again, most do not have the i infection, world-wide.
2. Even if your sex partner has infection, a single sex act is very unlikely to transmit HIV. There is virtually no risk for HIV acquisition from unprotected oral sex and the risk, if your partner is infected, for vaginal sex is only 1 infection per 1000 exposures.
3. Condoms are very, very effective for preventing HIV if used corrected and they do not fail, reducing risk for HIV by 99.9% over and above the figures I provided above.
With this as background, there was virtually no risk for HIV from your oral or condom protected exposures. This leaves only the episode in Feb 08 when your condom failed and yo have had HIV tests which are negative since then. Thus to summarize, the chance that you have HIV form the exposures you describe is virtually zero. The insurance-related HIV test you have soon will be negative.
As far as your symptoms, the symptoms you describe, including lymph node swelling are very non-specific and in your case are virtually certainly not due to HIV.
You have nothing to worry about from the exposures you describe. your wife is not in danger. EWH
sorry doctor i forgot to add that i have alos a swallen lymph node in one side in my groin area.
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