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Please help :( Do i have HIV? Scared :(
Hello
I'm at the point of not being able to sleep with worry, I have an appointment with my sexual health clinic but that's not for a couple of days. I would be so grateful if anyone could tell me what they think is wrong or help put my mind at ease :(
History
Around 12 months ago i had protected oral sex (gave and received) and partial unprotected anal sex (gave) - this lasted for around 10 secons and my penis was only inserted about 4 cm (before i released i need a condom and pulled out!!)
About 5 weeks ago I also had unprotected oral sex (gave and received).
Around 3 weeks ago I had unprotected oral sex (received only).
I know i have been very stupid.
Symptoms
About 12 months ago i noticed my anal area was itching and there was a slight discharge with a foul fish type odour. The odour has cleared up but to this day this is itching and a very slight discharge. I dont itch all the time, usually when im hot. When it does occur the itching is very intense and for relieft i have to itch to the point where i am sore and can bleed (skin breakage). I have to wash each time i itch. I have used anusol mainly to stop the itching - i do not beleive i have hemmoroids from self eximation. (i know i should go see my GP but im very nervous)
About 12 month ago i noticed my lymph noids in my groin were raised (still are to this day). My GP and hospital did every test/scan posible with nothing showing up as wrong. (i didnt mention the anal itching/discharge at the time)
About two weeks ago I noticed there was white flaky skin on my penis shaft. A red shiny line also appeared on the shaft, around 5cm long. The white flaky skin disappeared a couple of days ago, the line is still just about visible. During the time there was white flaky skin, any friction to the penis caused a burning sensation. I put this down to a fungal infection.
Today I noticed two dark red blood blisters inside my mouth on, on the inside of my cheek. Once is around 3mm in diameter (slightly raised), the other around 2mm in diameter (not raised). These are next to each other. Close by is also a white raised blister (could be an ulcer), about the same size.
Over the last week have been feeling very tired. My left eye always seems to be bloodshot, and the skin under my eye lid looks bruised because its very dark.
Last night i had the worst headache I think i have ever suffered. I believe it was a tension headache - the worst part was the pain across the back of my neck - I couldn't move for about an hour because the pain just increased in intensity. The headache went away quite suddenly after about an hour since it started. As I'm writing this can the feel the headache starting again now (lower back or head)
At first i thought I may have thrush and this may have spread to my mouth, but over the last couple of days i have been researching and found out what i have are possibly early symptoms of HIV.
Note - have no loss in apatite, no fever as far as i'm aware.
To sum up:
Anal itching / dischage / odour (no longer any odour)
White flaky skin on penis shaft / red line on penis shaft
Two dark red blood blisters in mouth & single white blister/ulcer
Tiredness, bloodshot eyes
Tension headaches
Does anyone have any ideas? Please?
thank you :(
I'm at the point of not being able to sleep with worry, I have an appointment with my sexual health clinic but that's not for a couple of days. I would be so grateful if anyone could tell me what they think is wrong or help put my mind at ease :(
History
Around 12 months ago i had protected oral sex (gave and received) and partial unprotected anal sex (gave) - this lasted for around 10 secons and my penis was only inserted about 4 cm (before i released i need a condom and pulled out!!)
About 5 weeks ago I also had unprotected oral sex (gave and received).
Around 3 weeks ago I had unprotected oral sex (received only).
I know i have been very stupid.
Symptoms
About 12 months ago i noticed my anal area was itching and there was a slight discharge with a foul fish type odour. The odour has cleared up but to this day this is itching and a very slight discharge. I dont itch all the time, usually when im hot. When it does occur the itching is very intense and for relieft i have to itch to the point where i am sore and can bleed (skin breakage). I have to wash each time i itch. I have used anusol mainly to stop the itching - i do not beleive i have hemmoroids from self eximation. (i know i should go see my GP but im very nervous)
About 12 month ago i noticed my lymph noids in my groin were raised (still are to this day). My GP and hospital did every test/scan posible with nothing showing up as wrong. (i didnt mention the anal itching/discharge at the time)
About two weeks ago I noticed there was white flaky skin on my penis shaft. A red shiny line also appeared on the shaft, around 5cm long. The white flaky skin disappeared a couple of days ago, the line is still just about visible. During the time there was white flaky skin, any friction to the penis caused a burning sensation. I put this down to a fungal infection.
Today I noticed two dark red blood blisters inside my mouth on, on the inside of my cheek. Once is around 3mm in diameter (slightly raised), the other around 2mm in diameter (not raised). These are next to each other. Close by is also a white raised blister (could be an ulcer), about the same size.
Over the last week have been feeling very tired. My left eye always seems to be bloodshot, and the skin under my eye lid looks bruised because its very dark.
Last night i had the worst headache I think i have ever suffered. I believe it was a tension headache - the worst part was the pain across the back of my neck - I couldn't move for about an hour because the pain just increased in intensity. The headache went away quite suddenly after about an hour since it started. As I'm writing this can the feel the headache starting again now (lower back or head)
At first i thought I may have thrush and this may have spread to my mouth, but over the last couple of days i have been researching and found out what i have are possibly early symptoms of HIV.
Note - have no loss in apatite, no fever as far as i'm aware.
To sum up:
Anal itching / dischage / odour (no longer any odour)
White flaky skin on penis shaft / red line on penis shaft
Two dark red blood blisters in mouth & single white blister/ulcer
Tiredness, bloodshot eyes
Tension headaches
Does anyone have any ideas? Please?
thank you :(
Around 12 months ago i had protected oral sex (gave and received) and partial unprotected anal sex (gave) - this lasted for around 10 secons and my penis was only inserted about 4 cm (before i released i need a condom and pulled out!!)
Need testing but low risk in my opinion
Need testing but low risk in my opinion
No incident HIV infections among MSM who practice exclusively oral sex.
Int Conf AIDS 2004 Jul 11-16; 15:(abstract no. WePpC2072)??Balls JE, Evans JL, Dilley J, Osmond D, Shiboski S, Shiboski C, Klausner J, McFarland W, Greenspan D, Page-Shafer K?University of California, San Francisco, San Francisco, United States
Oral transmission of HIV, reality or fiction? An update
J Campo1, MA Perea1, J del Romero2, J Cano1, V Hernando2, A Bascones1
Oral Diseases (2006) 12, 219–228
AIDS: Volume 16(17) 22 November 2002 pp 2350-2352
Risk of HIV infection attributable to oral sex among men who have sex with men and in the population of men who have sex with men
Page-Shafer, Kimberlya,b; Shiboski, Caroline Hb; Osmond, Dennis Hc; Dilley, Jamesd; McFarland, Willie; Shiboski, Steve Cc; Klausner, Jeffrey De; Balls, Joycea; Greenspan, Deborahb; Greenspan
Page-Shafer K, Veugelers PJ, Moss AR, Strathdee S, Kaldor JM, van Griensven GJ. Sexual risk behavior and risk factors for HIV-1 seroconversion in homosexual men participating in the Tricontinental Seroconverter Study, 1982-1994 [published erratum appears in Am J Epidemiol 1997 15 Dec; 146(12):1076]. Am J Epidemiol 1997, 146:531-542.
Studies which show the fallacy of relying on anecdotal evidence as opposed to carefully controlled study insofar as HIV transmission risk is concerned:
Jenicek M. "Clinical Case Reporting" in Evidence-Based Medicine. Oxford: Butterworth–Heinemann; 1999:117
Saltzman SP, Stoddard AM, McCusker J, Moon MW, Mayer KH. Reliability of self-reported sexual behavior risk factors for HIV infection in homosexual men. Public Health Rep. 1987 102(6):692–697.Nov–Dec;
Catania JA, Gibson DR, Chitwood DD, Coates TJ. Methodological problems in AIDS behavioral research: influences on measurement error and participation bias in studies of sexual behavior. Psychol Bull. 1990 Nov;108(3):339–362.
There is no debate (among experts) about the HIV risks associated with oral sex. The risk is so low that almost nobody who cares for HIV infected patients has ever had a patient believed to have been infected that way. Among experts, it's a semantic issue about using terms like "no risk" and "very low risk". There is no difference between my or Dr. Hook's use of "low risk" and other experts' "no risk".
DR. HANSFIELD
"And oral sex is basically safe sex -- completely safe with respect to HIV and although not zero risk for other STDs, the chance of infection is far lower than for unprotected vaginal or anal sex. Please educate yourself about the real risks. If you stick with oral sex and condom-protected vaginal or anal sex, you have no HIV worries and very little worry about other STDs. " DR HANSFIELD
"I am sure you can find lots of people who believe that HIV is transmitted by oral sex, but you will not find scientific data to support this unrealistic concern..." DR HOOK
"HIV is not spread by touching, masturbation, oral sex or condom protected sex."- DR. HOOK
in the public HIV Prevention forum of MedHelp, TEAK and the other moderators maintain that oral sex in all forms is a zero risk activity. Would you agree with this assessment?
I TOTALLY AGREE / DR GARCIA
"HIV is not spread by masturbation, through oral sex, through kissing or other casual contact." Dr. Hook
"The observation on thousands and thousands of observations is that HIV is not spread by oral sex (of any sort)." DR HOOK
"I would not say your risk ,if he had HIV is "slim to none"- that's too high. I would say they are effectively zero. How much of his ejaculate or other genital secretions you may have swallowed makes no difference. EWH "
"As far as HIV is concerned, there is no known risk of getting HIV from performing oral sex on an infected partner, even if that person's genital secretions get into your eyes or if you swallow." Dr.Hook
HIV is not spread by oral sex, giving or receiving, even if sores, gum disease or blood is present
DR HOOK
Int Conf AIDS 2004 Jul 11-16; 15:(abstract no. WePpC2072)??Balls JE, Evans JL, Dilley J, Osmond D, Shiboski S, Shiboski C, Klausner J, McFarland W, Greenspan D, Page-Shafer K?University of California, San Francisco, San Francisco, United States
Oral transmission of HIV, reality or fiction? An update
J Campo1, MA Perea1, J del Romero2, J Cano1, V Hernando2, A Bascones1
Oral Diseases (2006) 12, 219–228
AIDS: Volume 16(17) 22 November 2002 pp 2350-2352
Risk of HIV infection attributable to oral sex among men who have sex with men and in the population of men who have sex with men
Page-Shafer, Kimberlya,b; Shiboski, Caroline Hb; Osmond, Dennis Hc; Dilley, Jamesd; McFarland, Willie; Shiboski, Steve Cc; Klausner, Jeffrey De; Balls, Joycea; Greenspan, Deborahb; Greenspan
Page-Shafer K, Veugelers PJ, Moss AR, Strathdee S, Kaldor JM, van Griensven GJ. Sexual risk behavior and risk factors for HIV-1 seroconversion in homosexual men participating in the Tricontinental Seroconverter Study, 1982-1994 [published erratum appears in Am J Epidemiol 1997 15 Dec; 146(12):1076]. Am J Epidemiol 1997, 146:531-542.
Studies which show the fallacy of relying on anecdotal evidence as opposed to carefully controlled study insofar as HIV transmission risk is concerned:
Jenicek M. "Clinical Case Reporting" in Evidence-Based Medicine. Oxford: Butterworth–Heinemann; 1999:117
Saltzman SP, Stoddard AM, McCusker J, Moon MW, Mayer KH. Reliability of self-reported sexual behavior risk factors for HIV infection in homosexual men. Public Health Rep. 1987 102(6):692–697.Nov–Dec;
Catania JA, Gibson DR, Chitwood DD, Coates TJ. Methodological problems in AIDS behavioral research: influences on measurement error and participation bias in studies of sexual behavior. Psychol Bull. 1990 Nov;108(3):339–362.
There is no debate (among experts) about the HIV risks associated with oral sex. The risk is so low that almost nobody who cares for HIV infected patients has ever had a patient believed to have been infected that way. Among experts, it's a semantic issue about using terms like "no risk" and "very low risk". There is no difference between my or Dr. Hook's use of "low risk" and other experts' "no risk".
DR. HANSFIELD
"And oral sex is basically safe sex -- completely safe with respect to HIV and although not zero risk for other STDs, the chance of infection is far lower than for unprotected vaginal or anal sex. Please educate yourself about the real risks. If you stick with oral sex and condom-protected vaginal or anal sex, you have no HIV worries and very little worry about other STDs. " DR HANSFIELD
"I am sure you can find lots of people who believe that HIV is transmitted by oral sex, but you will not find scientific data to support this unrealistic concern..." DR HOOK
"HIV is not spread by touching, masturbation, oral sex or condom protected sex."- DR. HOOK
in the public HIV Prevention forum of MedHelp, TEAK and the other moderators maintain that oral sex in all forms is a zero risk activity. Would you agree with this assessment?
I TOTALLY AGREE / DR GARCIA
"HIV is not spread by masturbation, through oral sex, through kissing or other casual contact." Dr. Hook
"The observation on thousands and thousands of observations is that HIV is not spread by oral sex (of any sort)." DR HOOK
"I would not say your risk ,if he had HIV is "slim to none"- that's too high. I would say they are effectively zero. How much of his ejaculate or other genital secretions you may have swallowed makes no difference. EWH "
"As far as HIV is concerned, there is no known risk of getting HIV from performing oral sex on an infected partner, even if that person's genital secretions get into your eyes or if you swallow." Dr.Hook
HIV is not spread by oral sex, giving or receiving, even if sores, gum disease or blood is present
DR HOOK
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