AM I WORRYING FOR NOTHING. PLS HELP!!

[craigle]

Ok this is gonna sound really dumb and im probally over reacting.

Thing is , i got tested about 2 weeks ago as i put myself at risk 7 months before. Luckily i came back negative.

Thing is i had a drunken one night stand (anal sex) early sept with a condom and proper lube etc. My ex didnt *** in me as we felt bad for doing it, and i didnt feel any rips etc.

The reason im worrying is that i am in a new commited relationship with my new partner who is negative also. We have agreed not to use protection as there is FULL trust. But he saw a show on HIV the other day and it totally freaked him out thinking the condom could have ripped with my ex (i told him) and that he is scared. (now says he is over it)

I thought nothing of it but now i am being SOO paranoid and thinking ive got something now, i spoke to my ex and he assured me that it didnt split at all and that he wasnt even close to cumming.

this was just after 4 weeks also before i go my test.

Am i being dumb and over reacting for nothing?

[craigle]

I apprecite all your advice but i went for a test today

its been 6 weeks and my test came back negative,. the doctor laughed when i told him that the condom didnt seem to be broken etc

he said i have nothing to worry about and that i just got anxiety for nothing

thought i would let u know

[craigle]

Also i had a rapid test 3 weeks after the potential risk. i guess something could have been seen if there was a risk.

[craigle]

i hear it looks like a burst balloon, is that correct?
this one looked normal on disposal. am i just being OTT for nothing?

[Teak]

You would have known if the condom had failed.

[craigle]

just spoke to my ex and he as assured me again that it didnt split, so there should be no risk. He said even if it didnt there wouldnt have been a problem as he didnt *** or was nowhere near

[craigle]

no message came through

[craigle]

All i remember was picking it up and placing into some toilet paper for the flush.It looked regular, no *** inside or anything as it didnt get that far

[meworried]

You welcome ! If you checked the condom next morning, by water flush, its fine, I think if the condom holds water its is perfectly OK. By the way, I too never seen a broken latex, as never used it for protected sex.

[craigle]

thanx for that

i remember flushing the condom the nxt morning at it looked normal. If it was ripped would it have been noticable?

I have never seen a broken condom before

[meworried]

You are over reacting. Why you do not believe your ex that the damn thing did not break. Was he also drunk like you ? If so, then you have a valid reason not to believe him. If he was your ex, then you should be aware of his status, and if he is negative to date, you should get rid of all the worries you have.

However if you are not sure of both, health of condom and your partner then best thing is to refrain from unprotected sex with your new partner and wait until you get your conclusive report.

Based on my own statistics collected from different posts on his forum, use of condom becomes questionable and doubtful whenever the partners are drunk and may commit some stupid mistake in handling and use of this otherwise very strong barrier against HIV and STD.

That's why I said, choose only one at a time, liquor or your new one time partner.

[craigle]

any advice?