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im scared i may have hiv
okay so here it goes.
i am an 18 year old female. about a year and half ago i had unprotected sex with a guy on my holiday in mexico. and i knew him so i thought i knew he didnt have anything. and i was on the pill so i wasnt worried about anything.i was very drunk and can not remember much of it but i do know we were in the room for about an hour and he was having some difficulties and he got hard but then went limp, he didnt *** and as far as i know he didnt have any pre-*** either but i cant be sure. but we had vaginal,oral and anal sex. and i didnt think anything of it then but now a year and a half later i live in scotland and have a boyfriend that i got pretty much after the holiday and have been with him ever since and we have had unprotected sex many times. and a week ago i got a phone call fromt he guy i was with in mexico and since my spanish is a little bit rusty and i dont know any medical terms in spanish, i couldnt understand what he said he had. but he said he had something and that he may have had it while we were together aswell so he was letting me know. but now i am soooooo worried.....
what are the chances if he is HIV positive and that even though he didnt *** in me could i still have got it? what are the chances his pre-*** gave me HIV? what about in the anal position?would pre-*** have given me HIV while we were doing it in the anal position?
i have some of the symptoms such as a swollen lymph node behind my left ear and fatigue and depression but i got that even before i started having sex.so i dont know. and i used to live in california and never really got sick.but now i live in scotland i seem to get the flu quite a lot..but i think the reason i have the flu a lot more here then in california is because scotland is very cold and im not used to it.please tell me what you think.... PLEASE!
i am getting a HIV test taken soon, but i am so scared because im having serious anxiety about this and i cant stop thinking about it. and im not only worried about myself, but my boyfriend. i dont want to tell him until i have an answer for sure. but im sooo scared. so if someone could please help me out and answer my questions to put my mind at a little bit of ease until i go for my appointment.
i am an 18 year old female. about a year and half ago i had unprotected sex with a guy on my holiday in mexico. and i knew him so i thought i knew he didnt have anything. and i was on the pill so i wasnt worried about anything.i was very drunk and can not remember much of it but i do know we were in the room for about an hour and he was having some difficulties and he got hard but then went limp, he didnt *** and as far as i know he didnt have any pre-*** either but i cant be sure. but we had vaginal,oral and anal sex. and i didnt think anything of it then but now a year and a half later i live in scotland and have a boyfriend that i got pretty much after the holiday and have been with him ever since and we have had unprotected sex many times. and a week ago i got a phone call fromt he guy i was with in mexico and since my spanish is a little bit rusty and i dont know any medical terms in spanish, i couldnt understand what he said he had. but he said he had something and that he may have had it while we were together aswell so he was letting me know. but now i am soooooo worried.....
what are the chances if he is HIV positive and that even though he didnt *** in me could i still have got it? what are the chances his pre-*** gave me HIV? what about in the anal position?would pre-*** have given me HIV while we were doing it in the anal position?
i have some of the symptoms such as a swollen lymph node behind my left ear and fatigue and depression but i got that even before i started having sex.so i dont know. and i used to live in california and never really got sick.but now i live in scotland i seem to get the flu quite a lot..but i think the reason i have the flu a lot more here then in california is because scotland is very cold and im not used to it.please tell me what you think.... PLEASE!
i am getting a HIV test taken soon, but i am so scared because im having serious anxiety about this and i cant stop thinking about it. and im not only worried about myself, but my boyfriend. i dont want to tell him until i have an answer for sure. but im sooo scared. so if someone could please help me out and answer my questions to put my mind at a little bit of ease until i go for my appointment.
There are plenty of women who have been married to HIV infected men but never aquired the virus. Look at Magic Johnson and his wife! The chances of aquiring through vaginal sex are pretty low (1 in a 1000 for woman). The risk is higher for anal sex (1 in 200). Your risks are even less than that since he didn't ejaculate but there is no data on this. Odds are really in your favor but definitely get tested as there is no sure way to guess. Good luck!
tell me about it man... i have a fiancee ... this will ruin everything ..... plus the fact that no matter what happens to "us" im still responsiable for ruining his life.
which is why i seek answers...
and the anxiety will be with me until i get the test result back...
and the closetest day i could get a test for is a week and half away ....
plus another 2 weeks to wait for the results ....
freaked,
so anyone that knows any answers to my questions please answer if you can.
which is why i seek answers...
and the anxiety will be with me until i get the test result back...
and the closetest day i could get a test for is a week and half away ....
plus another 2 weeks to wait for the results ....
freaked,
so anyone that knows any answers to my questions please answer if you can.
Hi Freekedout00 - I am very scared myself as I think I have potentially caught it too. However with repect to any testing that does not scare me at all. I live in the UK and I have no idea what happens to the reults other than I think it remains anonymous, but I have no control over that. I just need to know the answer. I have a wife and family and need to know what to do next. The only way I can do that is to test. I wish you all the luck in the world with you resolving this and getting tested. Good luck and my heart goes out to you.
is it possible to have a lot of the symptoms, even though if you dont have HIV?
I agree with regularjoey, calm down!!! You don't know if you have it. Have you tried calling the guy back and asking him in very slow Spanish what it is that he has? Get up the nerve, I know it takes a lot, and take that test!
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