im scared i may have hiv

[freakedout00]

okay so here it goes.
i am an 18 year old female. about a year and half ago i had unprotected sex with a guy on my holiday in mexico. and i knew him so i thought i knew he didnt have anything. and i was on the pill so i wasnt worried about anything.i was very drunk and can not remember much of it but i do know we were in the room for about an hour and he was having some difficulties and he got hard but then went limp, he didnt *** and as far as i know he didnt have any pre-*** either but i cant be sure. but we had vaginal,oral and anal sex. and i didnt think anything of it then but now a year and a half later i live in scotland and have a boyfriend that i got pretty much after the holiday and have been with him ever since and we have had unprotected sex many times. and a week ago i got a phone call fromt he guy i was with in mexico and since my spanish is a little bit rusty and i dont know any medical terms in spanish, i couldnt understand what he said he had. but he said he had something and that he may have had it while we were together aswell so he was letting me know. but now i am soooooo worried.....
what are the chances if he is HIV positive and that even though he didnt *** in me could i still have got it? what are the chances his pre-*** gave me HIV? what about in the anal position?would pre-*** have given me HIV while we were doing it in the anal position?
i have some of the symptoms such as a swollen lymph node behind my left ear and fatigue and depression but i got that even before i started having sex.so i dont know. and i used to live in california and never really got sick.but now i live in scotland i seem to get the flu quite a lot..but i think the reason i have the flu a lot more here then in california is because scotland is very cold and im not used to it.please tell me what you think.... PLEASE!
i am getting a HIV test taken soon, but i am so scared because im having serious anxiety about this and i cant stop thinking about it. and im not only worried about myself, but my boyfriend. i dont want to tell him until i have an answer for sure. but im sooo scared. so if someone could please help me out and answer my questions to put my mind at a little bit of ease until i go for my appointment.

[guiltnworry]

When you go for the test, they are required by law to counsel you before AND after the test.  This is just to calm and inform all of the very nervous people who go get tested.  They will give you information about resources if you are positive, and information about safe sex whether you are negative or positive.  By law, wherever you get the test has to report a positive result to the CDC.  Some states have name based reporting, some just require that the result be reported, not the name of the person.  I'm not sure where you live, but you can look up whether or not it's name based or not.  The CDC will not release your information to anyone, not to the insurance company, not to your family, not to anyone.  It is for statistical purposes and to track diseases.  They won't pester you about it, but they will probably give you information about where you can get treated, etc.  All of this is assuming you are positive, which you don't even know yet, so don't get all freaked out about what you are going to do "now that you have HIV".  You don't know you have it, the odds are in your favor that you don't.  

To answer your other questions, yes, you can certainly have HIV and another STD and this is often the case.  If you have herpes or syphillis or some other STD that causes open sores in the genital/oral area, this increases your risk for getting HIV if you have unprotected sex, as it gives it another way for it to enter.  Some people never have symptoms, but about 80% of newly infected people will have a period with fever, chills, swollen lymph nodes, etc.  They usually go away in a few weeks and then the person enters the asymptomatic phase, which can last for several years, even without meds.  Some symptoms come and go, like thrush, vaginal yeast infections, etc.  This is only if you have HIV.  Take it one step at a time, go get tested, you will literally worry yourself sick if you keep thinking about all the possible symptoms you could have.  

Let us know about your result!

[freakedout00]

oh thats alittle music to my ears i suppose. im still nervous about the test though. what if i do have it? will the document me and put me in some sort of system? and pester me about it? and is it possible to have HIV and an STD at the same time? and if you do get symptoms do they usually all come at one time and not go away? or do they come and go occasionally?

[guiltnworry]

I speak Spanish and in Spanish, they call it VIH/SIDA, so if he told you he had that, you probably would have recognized it.  I'm not saying don't get tested, surely you should, but the odds are in your favor, as Dr. HHH would say.  Anal sex is high risk, and even with only precum it is still high.  However, like regularjoey said, and UNLIKE what Teak said, there is a far, far smaller amount of virus in precum than in whole semen.  There have been numerous studies to document this.  There is not a zero concentration of virus in precum, but it is far less than semen, so that too is in your favor.  Since the rate of transmission is strongly correlated with viral load, your chances are lower if he did not ejaculate.  They still aren't zero, so get tested!  Best of luck to you and be safe in the future!

[freakedout00]

thank you guyz i appreciate it.
id like 2 hear what other people have 2 say 2

anyone else have any views ?

[meworried]

When everything else fails, we approach to our ultimate rescuer,,, The God ! Who is the God of Jesus the Christ, Moses and Muhammad. He is merciful and Kind, always listen to those who come to Him and forgive them.

My best wishes are for you,,, Don't worry, you will be fine.

[Teak]

No need to use the IM to let people know you don't know what you're talking about.