need ur help

[Requiredadvice]

DR I posted in the community but there have been some unique issues I need you help with...

Massage with hand relief only. Issues were she touched herself and then continued stroking me. Unknown is she penetrated herself or rubbed clitoris area only. She then continue stroking me with same hand. I had an open abrasion on penis...I am not circumcised. Uknown if fluid contaminated area. Also had some saliva of hers in my mouth. I had an ulcer under my tongue. At the time I did not consider this incident an exposure. Just poor judgement. I engaged with my wife 1 week after this incident.

Here are the real concerns

* 10 dyas after engaged with wife she was exhausted for 3 days...
* 3 weeks after being with wife she suffered from night sweats...only one night.
* 5.5 weeks after engaging with my wife she had shortness of breathe, vomiting, high fever and has been diagnosed with pheumonia in both lungs..
* during pneumonia ultrasound was performed. Enlarged spleen an kidney observed.
* has an extremely bad headache (migrane)

I read online that pneumonia and enlarge spleen and kidneys are a symptom of HIV...I am really panicking...

Can you offer any advise doc...
Thanks  

[Edward W Hook, MD]

This is a repetitive question.  If your wife's pneumonia was related to HIV, the test would have been positive.  No change in my assessment or advice.  EWH

[Requiredadvice]

Whilst at the Hospital (in greece) they completed an HIV test (at my request) for my wife. This was six weeks after i had engaged with her. Despite the symptoms being very similar to lympathic type Pnuemonia as a result of HIV can i take this test as being conclusive.

I am unsure what type of test was conducted (it was in greek) but i did see ag/ab with two values stating non reactive. Would this indicate she had a Combo test?

No more follow ups from me after this one.....Thanks

[Requiredadvice]

Tahnks Doc. I appreciate the response...was just concerned her pneunomia was attributed to a recently acquired HIV infection as they are struggling to work out why/where the pneumonia came from. My anxiety is through the roof due to my incident of poor judgement and I get sick thinking that my stupity could have made my wife extremely ill!!!

I have read numerous posts re mutual being no risk was just extremely concerned with my wifes current symptoms aligning Very closely to that of HIV and thought/think that it could be due to events I described above.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome back to the Forum.  Your situation is not unique and in fact, not only does it resemble other posts that you could refer to but it also is quite similar to your own post about two years ago.   You have engaged in no risk activities in which you may have been exposed to a partner's genital secretions or saliva during masturbation - these are no risk activities and that you had a penile abrasion or a mouth ulcer does not change that this was a no risk event.  Then after sex with your wife, you focused on her and are attributing her coincidental illness to your indiscretion.  This is a coincidence, not a causal event.  there is no reason for concern and no reason for even testing.  You should anxiety drive you to test, I am confident that the test will be negative.  

Take care.  EWH