I take no such precautions either professionally or personally. I have a number of personal friends and professional colleagues who have HIV or are at high risk. I have shared meals, kitchens, bathrooms, and telephones with them, without thinking at all about whether they have been wiped or cleaned. We make no effort in my hospital or STD clinic to clean phones, doorknobs, etc regardless of whether HIV infected persons might have used them. It simply isn't necessary to prevent HIV transmission and nobody does this.
You need to let this go, and ignore any further "what if" or "is there any possibility" thoughts that come to mine. There is no realistic scenario you can describe that would change my advice on this.
thank you for your reassuring answer, I was unable to fall asleep tonight .
have you ever found yourself in a situation like the one i've described during your long experience with hiv+ people ? or it is common practice among doctors and nurses to wash their hands after every small exposure ?
Welcome to the forum.
My and everybody's objective, scientific, and yes, "most conservative" perspective is that HIV is never transmitted in this fasion and there is absolutely no risk -- regardless of what "secretions" she left on the phone.
The household members of people with HIV never catch it (assuming they aren't also sex or needle-sharing partners) despite many years of sharing kitchens, eating utensil, towels, and bathrooms with the infected person. Never.
Regards-- HHH, MD