I have read your question and reviewed your interactions with members of the HIV Prevention Community site. I agree with them that there is virtually NO risk of HIV to you from the exposure you describe. Here are the reasons why:
1. You and your sex partner were tested for HIV 2-3 months ago and did not have HIV. Thus if you were to get HIV from her, she would have had to get HIV since April.
2. Since April she has only had on other sex partner. HiV is rare in Turkey and her chance of having gotten infected from her exposure to the other person is very, very low (close to zero).
3. Even if she had gotten HIV, your risk of getting HIV from the exposure you describe is only 1 in 1000.
Putting these three facts together, your risk of getting HIV is virtually zero. Your problem is your OCD, not your HIV risk. to convince yourself that you did not get HIV, the fastest answer can be obtained by asking your partner to get tested for HIV again. If her test is negative, then you cannot have gotten HIV. If she cannot or will not get tested, you can wait for 8 weeks following your exposure, then get tested. When you do, your result will be negative, proving that you did not get HIV.
Please do your best to not worry about HIV but to get your OCD under control. Good luck., EWH
thank you very much doctor...your answer is really appriciated. its not the HIV that ruins my life its OCD i know. by the way i asked my friend to get tested HIV Duo p24 tomorrow and she accepted it to calm me down... i also think that the result is going to be negative but i cant control my thoughts because of OCD...thank you again for your answer...sincerely yours...