Ok thanks everyone. I appreciate it. Should I post to the sti board about what my risks could be?
There are no doctors here. Although, it is a moderated HIV forum.
There was no risk associated with any thing you have described. No testing was necessary.
Please see a doctor for your discomforts, you anal pain shouldn't surprise you since you were trying to shove a finger or two into it, there should be some minute tears, I believe that can be fixed by an ointment probably.
Oral sex is not a risk for HIV. Also, handjob can't give you the virus. I repeat, this was a no risk event.
This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
Yes it can hurt if someone does that vigorously to your butt, however that doesn't create hiv risk.