being unfair to my girlfriend

[arjay0028]

im arjay, im a filipino..can anyone give me an advice how can i tell to my gf my situation...im afraid to lose her...she is graduating student..we had an active love making, and i also used condom..but onetime when i used condom, it was broken...but the semen was not present inside the condom....only the little bit liquid from my penis...do i have to worry about it?? and when we are kissing onetime we kiss and i have i wound but not bleeding.....i really really love her..what am i going to do?????please help me..thank a lot!!!!!

[Gelsemium]

You have to tell her. The later you tell her, the higher possibility you loose her. Say “ I am sorry. I should tell you at the first day we met. But I was too afraid to loose you." Truly apologize and tell her how you love her.  

Consulting you doctor and her doctor. Order a liver function test, Hepatitis test to check whether she is OK. If she is fine, get  Hep B vaccine shots. With the protection for vaccine, she will be safe when you two are living together. Her family might be not agree your relationship. But you can do you best  to change their mind.

I am not saying you will definitely keep your girl friend and have a happy life forever in this way. But it is the only way you will not loose her.

Trust me. My boyfriend has hep B since birth and I am totally healthy. His honest is the biggest reason I stayed with him after I knew it and eventually married him.

[arjay0028]

yun nga pre...ang hirap kc ipagtapat s kanya, pro ang balak ko pgnagpamedical ako isasabay q sya..mya sched kc aq nitong december for my HBV DNA.. isasaby q gf q..then bahala n kung anu mangyayari..sana ndi sya nahawa kc pg ganun ipapavaccine q kgd sya...natatakot din aq malaman ng family nya...ayokong ihiwalay nila yung honey ko...handang kong panindigan lahat....ang prob. ko lng talaga yung aminin s kanya...

[ekitanga]

i agree with jeyck... kaya natin toh dont worry hindi to for life...

[jeyck]

pre. same tayo ng sitwasyon pero ako sa tingin ko . mas mgnda na ndi mahawa sayo ung gf mo .. kac mhal mo din nmn sya dba? e sa tingin ko ayaw mo din nmn sya mag kasakit dhl sayo.  kac kung love ka ng girl mo ndi ka basta bsta iiwan nan. ako my gf ako ngayon active kami. active sex life namin. last june ko lng nlman na may hepa ako. den ung nkuha ko result ko unang una taong pinag svhan ko e ung gf q. alam mo swerte ako kac kht gn2 ako . ndi nya ko pinabayaan . sya pa nag papalakas ng loob ko . kht stress na stress na ko sa life ko .. GF ko lng nag papalakas ng loob ko . salamat sa lord ndi ko sya na hawaan. safe sex lang tayo pre. gagaling nmn din tayo ndi nmn 4life 2.  tyaka kung mlkas nmn immune system ng gf mo ndi sya basta basta kakapitan ng virus .. lalong lalo na f may anti hepa b injection sya.

[GFRY]

i totally agree with you it's very very hard to do that but the harder thing is just stay silent and watch her get hurt in front of you , soon or later she will find out about it , make it happen in the right way , i hope you are religious pray to god to give you enough carriage and strength to do that .

[arjay0028]

thank you so much,,,,but, if you were in my condition how did you tell her about it..?

[GFRY]

consulting with your doctor is a good step to start with , find a way to get her immunized , and she should know about your disease , if she truly loves you she will support you , if not she doesn't deserve your love , don't live with the guilt of infecting her someday

[arjay0028]

please help me.....i want to save her, but i have no money... if we talk to her mother, maybee her mother keep my honey away from me...

[arjay0028]

its true i love her so much!!!! i dont know what to do...my life is ruin..huhuhu my plan is when i go to my doctor, i will consult her too..then thats the time that i will talk to her about my condition..

[GFRY]

i don't know much about HBV but i know it can be transmitted sexually , this is so un fair to her and very selfish of you can't you get treatment or get her immunized , otherwise this should stop
if you really love her you wouldn't want to see her sick with that disease this is rather selfishness than love (what are you thinking )