My daughter does not want me around her 8 year old.. I am beyond crushed.

[quixote51]

I was told in 93 I have Hep C..I have not had treatment because I have no insurance and I have no money..I am actually poor but not poor enough for medicare or whatever it is..Anyhow, I don't drink, do drugs or anything..My daughter and her husband have a job offer that would bring them back to her home town and she told me last night on the phone that the main reason she does not want to come home is because she is afraid I will give it to her 8 year old daughter..I am so sad and hurt..I was there when my grandchild was born..I cut the Cord..She is my only daughter and my grandchild and I are so close..We talk on the phone everyday..She told me that the reason she never comes to stay with me is that she is afraid my house is contaminated..Her husband runs a funeral home so you would think she knows better. I am thinking about just sticking my thumb out and disappearing..but, I do have a husband and alot of pets..I can't help it..I am so depressed..I don't know how to even get past it..I have cried till I'm dry. Seems like no one wants me. Thanks for listening..

[cquest]

Wen I told my office mates about this, I sensed some fear...I brought a bunch of pamphlets to work and spread them out on the conference room table...they read them, asked questions, and I could feel the tension ease...all it took was some communication and education.

Education is what your daughter needs and PRONTO! This is what I freakin' HATE about this disease! The misconceptions and ignorance! How how wrong to spread THAT disease to a child!

Then this poor woman at work was exposed to TB...now that's AIR borne! Imagine having a disease like that? She has to take medication now, the Health Dept. is MAKING her take it so it doesn't turn into full blown TB...I am sure she would trade places with me in a heartbeat...  
Cin

[quixote51]

well, she is coming down tomorrow to see a house so...We have talked a couple of times today and it went well..well, we didn't mention it, but I could just tell it's going to work out..I called one of her old friend's that has a husband with hcv for 11 years..they even have a son..she told me that they have like you should be around anyone bleeding..she says they now always have bandaids and when someone gets a cut, they stop, fix it and clean it up carefully..and no one uses anyone's razor or toothbrush..just like it should be anyhow..so, she is going to visit with her when they get moved down..I gave my house a good cleaning today, too..so, I am feeling better..you guys just made me realize the problem is solvable..Thnks...Also. after the holidays I am going to get myself checked out somehow..Figure out where I am..I feel so Lucky to have found you all..Thanks dawn

[beamishboy]

i am in a similiar situation in regards to income/assets/health insurance..New york state has a plan-GHI-that has been very good for me..The drug co. Schering also provides free meds thru Commitment to Care program--800-521-7157..........You can be treated if that is the appropriate path for you!!!---See a Hep-c specialist,there are clinics that specifically treat us...Find out your status,get a biopsy(less painful then a visit to the dentist) and seek out the advice of Medical Professionals about your current condition and options...Not knowing is soo unsettling & i sure do want to hear about your reconciliation w/ daughter--Good Luck

[NYgirl]

I am so sorry for this pain that you are in.  Ignorance is just a horrible thing and they are right someday your daughter will realize she has been such a fool.

On another note I know that the drug companies have ways for people to receive the meds for free fo those who are in your shoes.  If you did want to treat perhaps you could do that.

Again my heart just breaks for you. Somehow you need her to find out that if it were indeed that communicable...we all would have been shipped off to Hepper Island instead of going to work and church and things like that!

[silverangel]

Sorry to hear about your situation. Sad but true, alot of naive people out there have fears of the unknown. I know that lots are freaked out about HIV, and those who are, typically group all the blood born viruses together. They don't realize sometimes Hep C is NOT HIV. It's sad when your own family members are affected. I don't understand though, how she can truely feel this way, when she let you cut the umbilcal cord when the child was born.?

Anyway, you also mentioned that you have lots of pets, are they inside pets? That could possibly be part of her fears, as far as germs go. Ask her how she feels about that.

My advice, keep a clean house, and give her more information on hep c.

PS: Have you talked to her husband? How does he feel?

Sylv

[doll face]

I can definately understand you being hurt. When I had hep c my daughter in law never really said it out loud but did very much so by her actions that she was scared to let me by my only grandchild. Especially after seeomg how sick I would get after  doing my shot while visiting. Then one day I had enough and showed her and my son some pamplets and a letter someone posted here to relatives about hep c. After reading them, they both apologized to me and there has not been any more negative actions since. I hope for your sake and thiers that they will see you are no harm to your grandchild. Good luck.