Reminder

[CGTMHI]

Dear Friends,

We've tried for a week or more to gently remind everyone that we have rules that we will enforce, if we have to.  We HATE having to do this all the time and we really hate having to constantly remove inappropriate messages that are insulting or demeaning to others.  

Our forums are great because of the people who visit and share their information and support.  Our forums are NOT great when people bicker and post derrogatory remarks about others or drag fights from other websites over to Med Help's website, leaving the vast majority of our visitors clueless as to what is going on.

We will enforce our rules in order to insure the quality of our forum because we owe that to the millions of people who visit this forum each year.  Please remember that while only a few people are regular posters, there are millions who are readers!

Cindy Thompson
Med Help International

[Forseegood]

And I would say that I see a ton of people treating here (some mulitple treaters) that act (for the most part) maturely and with respect for one another...even if treating "is" putting someone over the line, that's all the more reason for other members to apprise the offender, for the good of all the board...or you have personal attack chaos, which probably isn't the best scenario for a Hep C board to run well, hence the discussion here...

[sfbaygirl]

"If someone can take their raging interferon-produced anger and let it out here, on me, let them. Maybe they won't hurt their spouse or other family member." There's alot more than interferon produced anger at work here. As for agendas, they can be seen through pretty quickly for what they are. Why do the majority of us have to listen to constant verbal bashings and snide coments? I dont' agree that this is just part of the internet. We are all invested in our tx and getting well. We are not here to snap the minute someone says something we don't think is "real" or "stupid". People come here with questons for the first time and may ask what someone considers a stupid question. Should we attack them? NO, of course not. They may really not know the answers to these questions.

Just because flaming and attacks go on other places on the internet doesnt' mean we have to have it here.

As I said before if we allow this verbal abuse to continue, then we are enabling those that do it. As with an alcoholic, if you enable them to drink, they will. If you enable someone to continue verbally abusing people, they will continue to do it. Push the abuse button. That is what it is for.

[moveabove]

I have a 7 foot christmas tree and 1200 lights going on it.
  What have I done?  Does med help have a site for this?
  That second question is probably a mistake

[moveabove]

You said what I wanted but much better.  But of course I say things with to much emotion and on top of that I am not at all good at writing. So when I do, do what I do ,please forgive me when I come across to strong.   I always have been a very emotional person and express it. And as you can see, I must say sorry at times.
But what I say is what I mean.  It just comes out not quite the way I would hope.

[SJL]

I know that everyone on this forum realizes what & how these toxic drugs have affected them. Sometimes we all rage, sometimes our words are quicker than our minds and ridiculous things come out of our mouths, I could go on & on.
The main thing is that if someone needs to vent, I feel there is not a better place than MedHelp. Everyone here is understanding and going through treatment at different times. Lets all learn from the tricks & treats from others. I have received very good advice here-you then take it & do what you want with it. It is at this point that everybody needs to get to! Try to remember that their are all kinds of people going through this together-young & older, men & women, children, wifes & husbands, and single persons. I personally love the humor---we need this to keep going! If someone needs to answer someone, that's fine. Let's try to be positive, (even though at sometimes it seems out of our control, of course, due to the meds.) But, let us all thank God that alot of people are reaching SVR.,-something we are all working toward!
Have a wonderful evening and a very Blessed Holiday Season.

Sandy

[Forseegood]

Newcomers don't know what's what and what posts they should be overlooking? and if every thread is strewn with offensive posts, do we all want to walk in a mindfield here? Becomes more work then anything finding things out we DO want to know...be different if there were just a few offensive posts per day, but I don't think anyone would agree with those numbers lately...

Maybe a better tact would be that we all should just watch ourselves a little bit, and if one gets too aggressive or viscious in their venting or whatever, have other members point it out, particulary if this is pointed at a newcomer, which happens more then anyone likes...As for me, I do see professional help...everyone needs help from time to time, professional and othewise...hope everyone is having a good weekend...