help husband on week 8 of tx need advice

[dublinangel]

my husband has been on this treatment and has completly changed if hes not depressed and hiding in his room with playstation he is really angry and very verbally aggressive now the hospital have put him on that much meds anti ds sleepers xanax and mood relaxers nd pain killers hes like a walking zombie i really want to help him but dont know how much more i can take i feel somedays im having a nervous breakdown itrying to cope with this its like he blames me for every little thing thats in his head even though all his problems where well before my time i really need advice is it going to get worse help please this is my only hope xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[comeagain]

Sounds like he needs to be alone as much as possible, maybe he need to have a plays at hes own during treatment.

When I´m on tx i feel much better of alone first tx was wearst i also had my children a lot more on first one, almust freekend me out.

ca

[dublinangel]

your right i have to do someting for my sake and are kids it breaks my heart to let them c this . but what to do where to start who to talk too maybe tell the docs and suffer the  consquences i don know im a nervous wreak

[Trinity4]

You know what, he's not taking this treatment seriously at all.  Perhaps he should consider stopping.  He isn't coping.  I would tell him in a heartbeat if he get's pulled off tx it's HIS OWN DAMN FAULT and HIS alone.  Don't let yourself become a victim.  He already has the "I'm a victim mentality"  Don't let him put you there too.  Sounds like somebody has to make some decisions around there and he's obviously not capable of it.  
Trinity

[dublinangel]

thanks your probally right i just dont know how to deal with that if i say anything else to doctors he verbally kills me saying that they will take him off treatment and that would be all my fault i could deal with normal relapse ive done it enough times in the past . its this treatment what happens with that . if they stopped it because of me id never hear the end of it and i dont think he would do it again

[Trinity4]

angel,
Lots of us have had a bad life as a child -  all part of the growing process.  We deal with our demons and that is the only way to move forward.  Sounds like the tx process has caused him to dwell on his past and look for excuses.  I know he's suffering, but he's also an addict and can't put himself in that position every again.  There are always a million excuses why an addict relapses but it comes down to one thing -  his ability to cope. He's got to want to do the right thing - or he's wasting his time and yours.  Sounds like he really needs a support group. counselling or whatever resources are available in your area.  I don't see a good outcome for him - really needs to get some help.  
Trinity

[dorsey15]

HE 'S FULL OF ****!! He's back to his old using ways.. To take 14 pain pills in 6 hours on top of all the other meds...He is not in pain from this treatment!!! Not to have all these meds.. Don't buy into this!!  He's got a sore  head because he's taking toooo many pain meds and it's having a reverse reaction .....
If he's taking all these meds it is bad on the liver...Somebody needs help...I hope you can help him ..or let his doctor know what's going on...
Blessings.  Dorsey