hepatitis c & oral sex

[lisami1323]

First, let me apologize in advance as I am sure this question has been asked over & over & over again.  I have found this website to be a wonderful resource, and am excited to have finally created an account and have the opportunity to be a part of this.

I am currently in a relationship, that has recently become quite serious.  He is positive for Hepatitis C and I am not.  I do however, have HSV type 2.  Now, I am well aware of the risks that are associated with engaging in unprotected sex, especially when I am undergoing an outbreak.  I also realize the risk we both purpose to each other.  The question I have is in regards to oral sex.  Me performing oral sex to him.  This is something I want to do quite badly, and I would very much prefer NOT to utilize protection.  I have read many things regarding the trace of HCV (viral load) in semen.  And how all findings have been inconclusive regarding the transmission of HCV via oral sex and the ingesting of semen.

I was just hoping that someone could possibly share their experiences, perhaps in a long term monogamous relationship and/or marriage.  My partner is in no way pressuring me, this is just something that I have wanted to do for a while, but because I am a single mother; I have been too scared even if the possibility of transmission is extremely low.

Thank you so very much for taking the time in reading my post, and I TRULY look forward to any and all responses.

[lisami1323]

I am sorry; I believe I posted this in the wrong forum.  I am sooo very sorry!!!!

[julesd63]

my best friend has been married for over 30 yrs. he has hep c, she does not, but she ALWAYS uses a condom. thats all i know. the scientists can't give us a definite answer

[nygirl7]

Put the words oral sex in the search feature and you'll be able to read for hours and hours.

[can-do-man]

Since its blood to blood i wouldn't think there would be any risk so why worry about it.

Though i would like to here from the women here on their thoughts and how they handle this, plus their thoughts on ingesting semen, would it be of concern?.......... Nygirl? Others?

[can-do-man]

"Put the words oral sex in the search feature and you'll be able to read for hours and hours."

A long hoilday weekend Deb???         :)

[willing]

>This is something I want to do quite badly

if the  job  is worth doing it's worth doing well... nevertheless it's heartwarming to see such devotion to an upstanding goal.  

No need to apologize, as nygirl points out this forum is likely the world's premier source of information on the subject. In fact one of our members recently completed an in-depth historical analysis of spitting vs swallowing. He's likely busy with his research at the moment  but hopefully will stop along shortly to offer advice.

BTW published accounts identifying trace amounts of HCV RNA in semen, blood, sweat, and tears are relatively common. Notwithstanding these results bodily fluids as a means of HCV transmission remain speculative (unlike HBV)  

The  CDC does not advise use of condoms in  a long term monogamous relationship and many here (myself included) have had unprotected sex with a partner for decades with no transmission.

[willing]

got carried away there - in  "blood sweat and tears" blood should *not* be on the list of innocuous bodily fluids. Blood will easily transmit the virus and the amount of virus it carries is significant - not trace.

[FlGuy]

You said a mouthful.  But, I'm reminded of a few thoughts.  The first is that a bad day of golf is better than a good day of work.  The other is Bacalls line to Bogie in "To Have And Have Not"  (might take a bit of research)

[GoofyDad]

Give this crowd a microphone and they're going to use it. You can count on that.  

"...share their experiences, perhaps in a long term monogamous relationship and/or marriage."  

I'm have trouble processing that portion of the question.  Why do we see references to oral sex and marriage in the same paragraph?  Warning Will Smith! That does not compute.

[ellen1960]

I have a friend who tried to do oral sex on her guy and he was wearing a condom.  She said the condom made a real bad squeaking noise against the back of her throat that made them both laugh so much it ruined the moment.

It sure made me laugh when she told me.

[willbb]

LOL ...  made me laugh when you told us

[Jillybean65]

Not having the best day here, but you definitely made me laugh out loud on that one!

[lisami1323]

Is my question nonsense?  It seems that everyone is pretty straight forward & open, so I feel comfortable in being so.  I LOVE to give oral men pleasures, and I prefer to swallow.  But this poses a serious concern for me.  Am I being childish about this?  I have tried to do research, I have even spoken to my PCP, and it seems that there is a risk, low but a risk nonetheless.  Thats why I was hoping there would be someone that has been in this exact predicament.

I really am not trying to be funny, or naive.  I am just torn.  Oral sex with a condom just seems weird, and that may be a childish statement; I don’t know.  Its just I have been sexually active with this guy for quite awhile, and although I REALLY want to “go down” (which I have; just haven’t finished the ‘job’; no pun intended) its getting a little old…not to mentioned disappointing for both of us.  

[mlkinmb]

Thanks for a much needed LOL!
Being that this is a sensative issue, I can honestly say that I've never been a fan of latex.
Thanks all, still LOL here!

[eureka254]

"...how all findings have been inconclusive regarding the transmission of HCV via oral sex and the ingesting of semen..."

Translation:  can't make conclusions if you can't find any evidence.

"... I am just torn..."
Your guy's got a dangerous tool there, eh?

ellen1960:
Too funny. Thanks for the laugh.

[ribman]

my wifes been getting torn for 15 years before i found out i had it,and she doesnt.for what thats worth

[lisami1323]

its definitely worth something. Thanks.

to eureka254:

"... I am just torn..."
Your guy's got a dangerous tool there, eh?

Bad choice of words on my part; sorry.

[eureka254]

Couldn't resist :).
Seriously, though, my husband and I have 'done it all' and then some in 25 years together, and he was almost surely hcv positive the whole time, and I'm still hcv negative.  

[ellen1960]

Not a silly question at all.  That's just the only person I know who ever tried that and you asked what other people experienced.  They started to hear a rythmic squeeka squeeka sound and she paused to see what it was.  Silence.  She began again and there it was.  Squeeka squeeka squeeka.  Then she got the giggles.  Then he got the giggles.  I think everyone she told this to also got the giggles.

I don't want you to think I'm laughing at you.  That's not what I intended.

[R Glass]

“This is something I want to do quite badly”
Get married, that should kill the urge. It seems to be the first thing to go.
My advice to him is put it in the pre-nup.

[willbb]

  Ricky...once married I think it"s the squeak that they can"t stand

[4chihuahuas]

I took a human sexuality class in college and they suggested using plastic wrap, or saran wrap for safe oral sex instead of condoms.  It is more flexible, lighter weight, and can be used on male or female comfortably. The experience is said to be much more sensual.  Just a tip

[GoofyDad]

The experience is said to be much more sensual.

No doubt. Even better than foil, possibly.
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Good one R G,lass.

[lisami1323]

Thank you for your responses.  I appreciate everyone’s posts; especially the saran wrap one ;)  And by the way, as far as the marriage thing; I was married for 12 years, and nope...never lost the urge to perform. Well at least up until year 11.

Thanks again, I feel a little better about things be able to converse with individuals and not just reading a bunch of inconclusive research studies.  I truly appreciate everyone’s insight & humor.  :)

I will be seeing him this weekend; I'll let you know how it goes ;)