thanks so much for words of encouragement,it was much needed. hubby and i spoke on monday morn. and i believe he now understands that i also don't feel the greatest somedays and i know that he doesn't. i push myself hard ie clean,take care finances,animals,teenager,appiontments,cooking,shopping etc. he works hard so that i can stay home for awhile to get better. he has changed alot since his injury so its hard esp. when together so long (17 yrs.)and not the same person...but all is forgiven and cleared up for now, puppy has made me laugh so hard,he's a wild one lol and keeps me running,i was sore this weekend just keeping up with him ! its great and it is something i needed..i smile more now :) hubby shopped for me,cleaned up,helped with chores and i told him how much i appreciated it,and him...so heres to happy trails :) hope you are all well...shelly..p.s so busy i hardly have time to get on computer!!
into everyday-a little sunshine... thanks for the laughter-it's the best medicine!!!!!!
Sorry, for the way your hubby is treating you, it's hard for many to understand what we are going through on tx. But still, that is no excuse for you being treated that way, even with a head injury. Right now you need all the support you can get, so glad you have a little puppy dog to hug.
Beagle
Hi Shelly, Boy I tell ya I got two dogs that are happy I am on treatment. They are enjoying all the extra loving I have been giving them. I wonder if they know that I am the one who benifts from all the extra petting and rubbing their getting. Hang in their on the home front. I know when my spouse and myself is in discomfort it is more possible than usual for are instincts to collide. Take care
Hi. I'm sorry to hear about your weekend, and how you've been being treated. I just went back on treatment this weekend after being off for 2 weeks. I have to admit that I think I was a little more emotionally sensative this weekend, and with my husband being tired from working alot of hours, I started feeling like "ok is it my new short hair? Did I do something wrong? Do I look like a wreck? Do I have a bad attitude?" I was asking him things like that all weekend, and probably driving him a little nuts. *LOL*
We finally had a good talk about it at bedtime last night (when I asked him if we could cuddle), and he said that he knew I wasn't feeling good Fri & Sat. But Sunday, I felt like he just didn't want to touch me. He is usually very attentive, and touchy-feely and this seemed out of the ordinary. I guess I DO believe that he was just very tired and a little apprehensive about me not feeling good. I think sometimes men (sorry guys) just don't realize how much it means to just give their ladies a hug and tell us everything is going to be ok. Something so simple as a hug can sometimes be the only cure needed. I am also thinking that some drugs do affect people's normal emotional judgment & libido, and maybe it's just that in your hubby's case. It must be extremely difficult with you both dealing with both of your medical issues, and I'm sure that sometimes, worlds will collide. I think that him giving you a new puppy is AWESOME!!!! That says alot right there. Just hope you have an easier time with yours than I'm having with mine. Bailey, the Cocker Spaniel from hell (AKA CUJO). She can really drive me nuts sometimes, but I'm so glad I have her..dogs can be the best therapists.
My best wishes to you, your hubby and your new pup.
E
Sorry to hear things aren't going so well. I know how tough it can be when spouse does not seem to understand, or worse even care, about what we are going through.
I think the problem is worse when we do not exhibit outward appearances which reflect the struggles we are going through.
One thing I've come to notice is that the external changes many times are so subtle that those closest to us may not see them, but others we see less often can see the outward changes in us which reflect that something is not right.
I think you'll find alot of comfort with your new member of the family. Sometimes I think that dogs are a true reflection of God's own faithfullness in that no matter what we do or how mean we are, they always waiting and wanting our attention and affection. I've seen some dogs go through some very abusive situations, yet they come with tail wagging and tongues hanging when someone cares enough to show them attention and willingness to pet them.
Sorry you're having a tough time right now. It sounds like your husband has a lot on his plate too.
Sometimes I think my husband believes I'm faking my tiredness but he never says anything. I have half of the energy I used to have and I know it sucks for him. I try my best to fake my way through a lot of stuff on the weekends so he doesn't worry about me but I end up paying for it on Monday and Tuesday.
About your dh's sex drive... Maybe some viagra would help?
I hope I can throw in a little humor without offending Shelly or anyone else.
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I can't imagine how more difficult this must be with both of you sick, and probably neither getting the attention you need. The Husky sounds like an absolutely wonderful gift. Give him a hug for me :)
-- Jim
Great one! thanks, I needed that.
my dogs are very sympathetic listeners,endlessly supportive and always hungry...hmmmm?.....hope you find solace and comfort with the pup...easier to train than a husband
AWE ((((((SHELLY)))))) I'm so sorry you're going through this poor girl... sometimes I wish we could all get together in person so hugs and personal words of comfort could be given freely. Give your new puppy lots o love, and know we're here when needed. Prayers for you today.
Your new puppy sounds like it will be lots of love and company for you. I know how it feels for family members not to understand. Everybody needs love and support, even without this curse. So here's a hug from me!!! I hope things get better for you.
How are you? Hope youa re hagig i there and feeling pretty good.
I could sure tell by your post how much you love and miss your dog. I miss mine too even now, 22 years later.
This tx has sure made me miss having a pet. A pet is suh a great asset when you are ailing.
Keep your chin up lady. A Siberian Husky. My all time favorite. Be prepared for a dog that needs exercise though. They will jump fences and dig (just let them keep the same hole and then they won't dig any more). If you are in an area that you can walk for your exercise do it as they really love to run. I raced mine for 5-6 years. We had her put down when she was 16.
Yes I miss Pushka. SHe has been gone for 16 years now. Have had 3 goldens since then (still have 2). Have a cat who thinks he owns the place and a water dragon (lizzard) who thinks she can fly. She jumps and falls straight on her nose. She use to be my sons but he left her when he moved out 6 years ago. I am an animal nut. On weekends I go to garage sales and buy the collars and leashes and anything else I can find for the non kill shelters. We are looking for about 3 acres now to build. I want to move just a little out and heck hopefully by the tiime I retire we can sell and move to Southern Colorado.
Hi, I am starting tx Oct. My Hep C is a secret from my whole family. Would take up a whole page to explain. But I do know how it feels to want to be held and comforted. Its a lonely journey this Hep C sends us on. I am grateful to be able to vent here. Your pup sounds adorable. He will keep you busy. Hope things get better for you.