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Dating and Disclosing
I just told my new boyfriend that I'm HCV+. He totally freaked out and gave me the boot. He's all paranoid thinking he's already getting sick and has whipped himself up into quite a froth over the whole thing. (And this from a medical professional!) Yes, I should have told him before we had sex the first time. But I didn't think I was deceiving or victimizing him, given my understanding about the risk of transmission being so low and the fact that we have been using condoms for all but the first couple of times. My question is this: When you are dating, when should you disclose your diagnosis? Do you have any experiences you can share? Any tips for dating with Hep-C are greatly appreciated. (P.S. I'm better off without him - his only concern was for himself.)
But it wasn't really his call to ask - you should have TOLD as YOU are the one WITH the disease. It's just the better way to be. Until you treat and get SVR for sure....and maybe even after that.
I intend to tell whomever that I had it, treated it, killed it and am safe. Unless I relapse and then I'll do the right thing anyway. I don't want to be responsible for givng this to anyone else. It's called the SILENT KILLER for a reason, you know?
I intend to tell whomever that I had it, treated it, killed it and am safe. Unless I relapse and then I'll do the right thing anyway. I don't want to be responsible for givng this to anyone else. It's called the SILENT KILLER for a reason, you know?
He had a choice, too. He didn't use a condom and didn't ask. We both were irresponsible.
Nah, I seem to have a knack at being able to induce adrenaline surges at any hour of the morning. My ex boss can testify to that.
Honestly it's a very personal decision but if not telling one should probably insist on using a condom. Doctors will tell you there is an extremely low possibility BUT it's still about 3% which makes it POSSIBLE.
I was very fortunate when I was diagnosed the guy I was with was more mature and he knew he wouldn't be getting it from me as long as we practiced SafeRRR sex (you know not during period, no anal sex things like that). He ditched me for completely other selfish reasons.
I think you're better off - you still should have told him or used a condom but - most of the people in here who have been in completely monogamous relationships none of them seem to have ever given it to a spouse.
Lesson learned ok? Just DONT do it again. You were selfish but he was too - he should have spoken to a medical professional too to learn how things really are before he judged you but c'est la vie. You both sound kind of young and have a lot to learn.
If you had AIDS it would be a really big deal but HCV not to much.
Sorry - my opinion and what my doc sort of said to me.
PS Your better off without him for sure. You have to admit - it's a VERY good test to find out if a man is into you for real or not. Just tell them before you do it and see what he says and USE A CONDOM or if you are in a monogamous relationship use SAFERRRR sex and you'll be fine.
I was very fortunate when I was diagnosed the guy I was with was more mature and he knew he wouldn't be getting it from me as long as we practiced SafeRRR sex (you know not during period, no anal sex things like that). He ditched me for completely other selfish reasons.
I think you're better off - you still should have told him or used a condom but - most of the people in here who have been in completely monogamous relationships none of them seem to have ever given it to a spouse.
Lesson learned ok? Just DONT do it again. You were selfish but he was too - he should have spoken to a medical professional too to learn how things really are before he judged you but c'est la vie. You both sound kind of young and have a lot to learn.
If you had AIDS it would be a really big deal but HCV not to much.
Sorry - my opinion and what my doc sort of said to me.
PS Your better off without him for sure. You have to admit - it's a VERY good test to find out if a man is into you for real or not. Just tell them before you do it and see what he says and USE A CONDOM or if you are in a monogamous relationship use SAFERRRR sex and you'll be fine.
I think it's a bit early in the morning to "jump up and down" don't you :)
Yeah. You either should have told him in advance, or used condoms from the beginning. The risk of transmission is very low even without condoms, but that should have been his choice not yours.
-- Jim
-- Jim
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