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Is foot in mouth a side effect?
Yesterday, I did it again, twice. One of my kids phones. They want sympathy and instead I make some wisecrack and burst out laughing and can't stop and by then my foot is firmly entrenched into my mouth. I know if they talk to me on certain days of the week, I am closer to being clear minded. My kids think I'm making excuses. I'm convinced its tx related.
Did you understand what I meant when I said 'do the drapes match the rug?'
I seem to be losing a lot of hair that normally would require a bikini wax. I'm glad to see it go, but I wonder if it's just temporary.
NOW I DO!!!!!!
That went entirely over my head!
Hahahahaha.
I gotta remind you I'm on the Board of Directors for the Coalition to fight for the Dignity of the Cosmetically Impaired.
It will get better, the teenage years are the worst and your stepdaughter is at the worst age of all esp. female to female. I have a 22 year old girl, 32 neices and nephews and 14 great neices and nephews so I have seen it all, they all go through it to some extent. Some day she will come around and let you know (in one way or another) that she does care and appreciates you.
IMHO only
I've worked with kids for 20 years (it wasn't my first choice - just turns out there was no other way to make a living with almost a PhD in music)
I've had 10,000 plus students. In one school I saw 1200 different kids per week!
It has never been easy, and, as i said, I am/was a musician, not a child expert, but the difference in behavior between now and when I started 2o years ago is indescribable.
I took my current job about 7 or 8 years ago after I got sick of doing a 2 hour commute everyday. I was so excited to have a job 5 minutes from my house. I started in May, the fourth music teacher in a year. I worked with grades k - 8 - I just barely survived that six weeks and swore I'd never again work with anyone taller than me (I'm 5'4). (that's after getting threatend with being shot - punched in the eyes, tripped , etc. sort of like what SFG is going through times several hundred).
i told my supervisor if he didn't transfer me I'd resign.
he placed me in a k-4 school.
Now, the 4the graders (age 10 or so) are like the 7th graders I worked with when i first started.
I'm through. I may not go back. And it's not Like I can't handle the kids - I just don't want to. It's truly scary to see what the future looks like.
Again, IMHO
I've worked with kids for 20 years (it wasn't my first choice - just turns out there was no other way to make a living with almost a PhD in music)
I've had 10,000 plus students. In one school I saw 1200 different kids per week!
It has never been easy, and, as i said, I am/was a musician, not a child expert, but the difference in behavior between now and when I started 2o years ago is indescribable.
I took my current job about 7 or 8 years ago after I got sick of doing a 2 hour commute everyday. I was so excited to have a job 5 minutes from my house. I started in May, the fourth music teacher in a year. I worked with grades k - 8 - I just barely survived that six weeks and swore I'd never again work with anyone taller than me (I'm 5'4). (that's after getting threatend with being shot - punched in the eyes, tripped , etc. sort of like what SFG is going through times several hundred).
i told my supervisor if he didn't transfer me I'd resign.
he placed me in a k-4 school.
Now, the 4the graders (age 10 or so) are like the 7th graders I worked with when i first started.
I'm through. I may not go back. And it's not Like I can't handle the kids - I just don't want to. It's truly scary to see what the future looks like.
Again, IMHO
I think that there are alot of the kids today that are very rebellious for what ever reason. I have kids in my family that are being raised in a good household and they are difficult kids even with a good up bringing. I have another family member who is bringing up his children in a loving home, he's a practicing Buddhist, good father and yet his kids, one in particular is very difficult I don't get it. What is causing this?
But I will say this, we would never ever have gotten away with some of the things that these kids today get away with as far as how they talk to their parents. We would be punished by not being able to go out with our friends or something like that. I know my one family member doesn't believe in punishing the kids, so that may be part of the problem. The teenage years are difficult, but my one niece is only 11 years old and she seems to be headed in the wrong direction. She acts and looks alot older that 11 also.
Its stressful for my brother in law as a single father, but he is hopeful things will get better as they get older. I hope this is true. Funny thing though is they are great when I have them. I think they know I won't put up with it, but then again kids usually do love to go to their Aunts and Uncles house so they are probably on good behavior because of that. Aunts and Uncles may be part of the problem. We spoil them and then send them back home.
But I will say this, we would never ever have gotten away with some of the things that these kids today get away with as far as how they talk to their parents. We would be punished by not being able to go out with our friends or something like that. I know my one family member doesn't believe in punishing the kids, so that may be part of the problem. The teenage years are difficult, but my one niece is only 11 years old and she seems to be headed in the wrong direction. She acts and looks alot older that 11 also.
Its stressful for my brother in law as a single father, but he is hopeful things will get better as they get older. I hope this is true. Funny thing though is they are great when I have them. I think they know I won't put up with it, but then again kids usually do love to go to their Aunts and Uncles house so they are probably on good behavior because of that. Aunts and Uncles may be part of the problem. We spoil them and then send them back home.
Hawke,
Good point. Karma and respect go hand in hand. Unfortunately, Respect is
an alien concept to most teenagers.
"She has physically attacked me, pushed me, hit me thrown things and kicked me for no reason... I have never done a thing to this girl and she hates me."
Correction - Sounds like ya never did a thing except try to HELP her.
After all you have been through, to have to tolerate hostility and rudeness from your step-daughter is going too far.
"Why should I continue being a punching bag?"
You shouldn't and you can't afford to! You need to take care of you and John has to be on the same page. (IMHO)
"I think I need to see the shrink."
Might not be a bad idea.
Good point. Karma and respect go hand in hand. Unfortunately, Respect is
an alien concept to most teenagers.
"She has physically attacked me, pushed me, hit me thrown things and kicked me for no reason... I have never done a thing to this girl and she hates me."
Correction - Sounds like ya never did a thing except try to HELP her.
After all you have been through, to have to tolerate hostility and rudeness from your step-daughter is going too far.
"Why should I continue being a punching bag?"
You shouldn't and you can't afford to! You need to take care of you and John has to be on the same page. (IMHO)
"I think I need to see the shrink."
Might not be a bad idea.
Lucky for me, my son doesn't stay angry or my toes would still be tickling my tonsils
I empathize with you and know that step-kids can be a royal pain. My stepson's mother abandoned him at age 3. Although I was the one saying, eat your dinner, do your homework, take a bath, etc, etc., I got all the misplaced anger that should have been directed at her. And the missing dippy mother was always 'perfect' in his eyes.
You have the wisdom to know the teenage terror could indeed turn around once the teenage years are over but she deserves the consequences of her actions. Which in this case, since she can't be of help, she should be quiet, if that means Utah, so be it.
If the little darling is quoting karma and knew anything about Buddhism, she'd know to respect her elders.
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I empathize with you and know that step-kids can be a royal pain. My stepson's mother abandoned him at age 3. Although I was the one saying, eat your dinner, do your homework, take a bath, etc, etc., I got all the misplaced anger that should have been directed at her. And the missing dippy mother was always 'perfect' in his eyes.
You have the wisdom to know the teenage terror could indeed turn around once the teenage years are over but she deserves the consequences of her actions. Which in this case, since she can't be of help, she should be quiet, if that means Utah, so be it.
If the little darling is quoting karma and knew anything about Buddhism, she'd know to respect her elders.
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