it's the hardest thing to face, next to your own child death, isn't it.
but all the exaustion aside, there's just something more wonderful and full circle about getting to be at a bedside, and express what's in our hearts, even if words themselves aren't used, the love gets communicated.
I did not get to have this goodbye time with either my mom or dad, things were abrupt and left us feeling helpless....and still missing to this day the goodbyes we should have said.
we don't like seeing loved ones suffer, but there's something very beautiful in being there for them that cannot be underestimated in spite of what a struggle it is to be strong. when all is said and done, you'll be glad you went to see him, whether now is his time or not. I got to do that with my aunt, and wouldn't trade it for anything.
Our prayers are with you.
LOL...yes I would rather fly too! Guilt does pop up a lotin my vocabulary, thanks for pointing that out...Not 1/2 Irish, it's Scottish Irish Welsh blend on the mother's side. Dad, south of the border you know.
I think it's the Catholic mentality, or maybe it's just me, let me lay on your couch and we can discuss it....
Hugs,
Bugged
I want to fly.
If it were me...cancer or heart attack...heart attack for me...sharp and quick.
I too was grateful that my dad had time to prepare..it was a gift. He was incredibly strong.
I would not want my mother to have to suffer for Any length of time.
Luckily enough I don't have to choose between smart and pretty...just blessed I guess.... :} j/k
Tell me Ms. Bug, where does this guilt come from...hum? 1/2 Irish..maybe something to do with it...ahh...Catholic...definately a contributing factor. Put them both together...and it explains everything. (lol) Now lay down on the couch and let's discuss this. yadayadayda. OK Let It Go! You Are Worthy! You too, have had a terrible loss. Enjoy the fact that your treatment was successful....we are all happy for you.
Lastly, Thank you for your support and the many kindnesss you have bestowed upon me, for real.
Hugs atcha
Y
I feel grateful for all the support, but guilty because so many have gone through this already. (like Ladywhy with her dad, or Child with her Mom and brother)
This is really stupid but I use to wonder if it's harder to lose a parent suddenly, (like my mom) or slowly, like my Dad. Has anyone played "would you rather?" Would you rather be pretty or smart? Be invisible or fly? Lose a parent slowly or suddenly?
Silly thing to debate...but I feel blessed to have time with my Dad and prepare for the inevitable.
And twice blessed to have a community who knows all about grief and sadness and suffering...yet still gives me support!
Love and hugs,
Bug
I'm sorry you're going through this major stressful life event right now. I've been to the hospital several times over the past few years with my folks and I know how it makes you feel.... I'll pray for you....you've been so sweet and supportive to me and I've appreciated it so much! Blessings to you and your family.
Susan
I just found this post- I'm sorry I'm so late, but I just wanted to let you know that you and your Dad are in my prayers. Strength and best wishes to you...
Hugs,
Dee