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Ok I need to know if I need to keep using these damn condoms? I have been married 14 years and dont plan on that changing. So no mutiple partners or anything. The Dr said it would be safe not to use protection and just get my hubby tested every so often. We have used condoms since we found out about Hep C. My hubby is clean, test came back perfect. He doesnt want to use protection anymore but I am not so sure. If he cant get it from me then why test every so often? This is starting to be a big deal around here. I finally told him to be happy with what he got because it may all end when I start tx. I hope not but chances are they will. So the ? is use protection or not?
I'll be very honest.
My hubby and I had sex in every single imaginable way --- prior to my diagnosis. We figure I've been infected since my pregnancy about 12 years ago.
Anyhow - we were unprotected all of that time... during menses - all sorts of angles, positions, etc... LOL!
We have also been involved in a serious car accident - with lots of bleeding involved.
At first I was freaked about sex with protection... I made him wear his raincoat --- rain or shine... LOL!
But honestly - now... well two things...
We're married... for better or worse. (I'm SVR now... plan to stay that way.)
He didn't get it before - and I really don't think sex is a real factor on HCV.
I believe (and this is just my opinion) that sex is a non-risk factor, unless you're into ripping tearing rough anal sex... or you're VERY abraded and bleeding with open wounds - both of you.
It's not a bodily fluid contagious disease. Just Blood.
Now - with that caveat - there are some people who have open wounds... in very private areas --- and it's hard to tell when they are bleeding (think herpes, genital warts or any other puncture wounds that are miniscule, but actively bleeding.. .And it IS POSSIBLE... Just not likely.
Kind of like --- It's possible to get hit by a train.
But you really have to make it happen... Like Getting stuck on the tracks --- or jumping out in front of it.
So - Yeah - protected sex is a good idea during your period... or times when either of you are abraded or if you're going to have anal sex or any type of rough sex.
Now - about TX side effects... will you be horny when you're on TX?
Hmmm...
Well there were some days I could - and some days when sex was so far out of the picture that it wasn't even imaginable.
Those were the days the tissue box on the side of the bed got used.
But don't discount your husband's needs as well ---- get involved prior to TX... Check out some toys online. Sex is very important in keeping your relationship healthy... Especially for men. Invest in something silly like a "FLESHLIGHT" or something that he can participate with on his own --- A LOT... Buy lots of lubricant... Because the TX can cause extreme dryness... You'll also be prone to yeast infections --- so keep on top of that (at least I was).
Be prepared to just lay there --- and let your mind wander... Don't worry --- LMAO - if you're like the rest of us - You'll have forgotten it 15 minutes later... LOL! Brain fog is quite interesting.
But there will be times that you'll want to be held... and times when the last thing you want is someone touching you.
You've got a good man who loves you. Let him - as a consenting adult make the decision... As long as he is forewarned - knows the risks... Check them out online - show him... But let him make his choices.
And do get him tested --- I advocate routine yearly or every 2 year testing.
I hope my honest answers helped a little bit.
Meki
My hubby and I had sex in every single imaginable way --- prior to my diagnosis. We figure I've been infected since my pregnancy about 12 years ago.
Anyhow - we were unprotected all of that time... during menses - all sorts of angles, positions, etc... LOL!
We have also been involved in a serious car accident - with lots of bleeding involved.
At first I was freaked about sex with protection... I made him wear his raincoat --- rain or shine... LOL!
But honestly - now... well two things...
We're married... for better or worse. (I'm SVR now... plan to stay that way.)
He didn't get it before - and I really don't think sex is a real factor on HCV.
I believe (and this is just my opinion) that sex is a non-risk factor, unless you're into ripping tearing rough anal sex... or you're VERY abraded and bleeding with open wounds - both of you.
It's not a bodily fluid contagious disease. Just Blood.
Now - with that caveat - there are some people who have open wounds... in very private areas --- and it's hard to tell when they are bleeding (think herpes, genital warts or any other puncture wounds that are miniscule, but actively bleeding.. .And it IS POSSIBLE... Just not likely.
Kind of like --- It's possible to get hit by a train.
But you really have to make it happen... Like Getting stuck on the tracks --- or jumping out in front of it.
So - Yeah - protected sex is a good idea during your period... or times when either of you are abraded or if you're going to have anal sex or any type of rough sex.
Now - about TX side effects... will you be horny when you're on TX?
Hmmm...
Well there were some days I could - and some days when sex was so far out of the picture that it wasn't even imaginable.
Those were the days the tissue box on the side of the bed got used.
But don't discount your husband's needs as well ---- get involved prior to TX... Check out some toys online. Sex is very important in keeping your relationship healthy... Especially for men. Invest in something silly like a "FLESHLIGHT" or something that he can participate with on his own --- A LOT... Buy lots of lubricant... Because the TX can cause extreme dryness... You'll also be prone to yeast infections --- so keep on top of that (at least I was).
Be prepared to just lay there --- and let your mind wander... Don't worry --- LMAO - if you're like the rest of us - You'll have forgotten it 15 minutes later... LOL! Brain fog is quite interesting.
But there will be times that you'll want to be held... and times when the last thing you want is someone touching you.
You've got a good man who loves you. Let him - as a consenting adult make the decision... As long as he is forewarned - knows the risks... Check them out online - show him... But let him make his choices.
And do get him tested --- I advocate routine yearly or every 2 year testing.
I hope my honest answers helped a little bit.
Meki
None of my partners EVER got HepC from me. They were tested for years . They were always negative.
sex????? on tx???? LMAO! I don't even have the breath to sing let alone even think about sex...LOL
I have been married for the last 25 years and contacted HepC before I met my wife. She was diagnosed Neg about 3 Months ago.
Not funny !!! I am still young and enjoy a little romp. so does the hubby. I wont let him read this no need in both of us being depressed. I dont know if he would do the toy thing byhimself and I know I would laugh my butt off.
Hey maybe I just found my antidepressant! Just give the hubby a sex toy and enjoy
Thanks
Hey maybe I just found my antidepressant! Just give the hubby a sex toy and enjoy
Thanks
enjoy your romp! You'll find out as you get older it doesnt matter how old you are 35-45-or 55!
A romp is a romp!!!!
BE good
A romp is a romp!!!!
BE good
I am so glad to see this topic up here. Was hesitant to ask. I finally mentioned to my nurse yesterday that one of the MAJOR part of my 'frustration' that I am dealing with is sexual. I seem to want it more and more....and think about it more and more ... and frustratingly so! I am at work, saying "who wants coffee" JUST so I can do a coffee run stop home REAL quick ... man, am I sick! but, just the same, I am glad to hear others have the same thoughts going on too. Although I think I feel too crappy / breathless to do MUCH, it doesn't change the WANTING!
Thanks :)
Albany
Thanks :)
Albany
I don't even remember what that word means anymore but...............as long as you practice SafeR sex with the R.....
Or lord I don't wanna think about it.
Or lord I don't wanna think about it.
My wife closed up shop 2 years ago due to meds and mental pause. Life sucks. What is a fleshlight?
the anit depressents are the sex killers during treatment I've done it with and without it!
Was that an eye opener?
Would you believe my best friend's son (19 years old... just got his own aparment) is the one who "taught" me about it...
LMAO
I better explain.
I was helping the move in...
And it kinda fell out of the box... He hadn't put the lid on tight on the fleshlight... It popped open...
you wouldn't have known what it was - if you didn't have it open... LMAO!
I kinda stood there with an open mouth going - uhm. uhm.. ah.. uhm.. wondering whether to scream with laughter or handle it like a grown up. And wondering how to pick it up without touching it... Sheesh - how many times had it been used...
AND ALL WITHOUT ALERTING His parents... LOL!
I went over and tapped him on the shoulder and he got all embarrassed...
Later he bought Pizza - and I asked him what the heck it "really" was (I mean - it was kinda obvious "what it was" but not the details.
He politely --- and blushingly told me the basic concept - and name... then I looked it up...
ROFLMAO!
So there... that's how I know about it!
But don't ask how many I've picked up for the hubby.
Would you believe my best friend's son (19 years old... just got his own aparment) is the one who "taught" me about it...
LMAO
I better explain.
I was helping the move in...
And it kinda fell out of the box... He hadn't put the lid on tight on the fleshlight... It popped open...
you wouldn't have known what it was - if you didn't have it open... LMAO!
I kinda stood there with an open mouth going - uhm. uhm.. ah.. uhm.. wondering whether to scream with laughter or handle it like a grown up. And wondering how to pick it up without touching it... Sheesh - how many times had it been used...
AND ALL WITHOUT ALERTING His parents... LOL!
I went over and tapped him on the shoulder and he got all embarrassed...
Later he bought Pizza - and I asked him what the heck it "really" was (I mean - it was kinda obvious "what it was" but not the details.
He politely --- and blushingly told me the basic concept - and name... then I looked it up...
ROFLMAO!
So there... that's how I know about it!
But don't ask how many I've picked up for the hubby.
just couldn't resist bringing this thread back up to the top o' the pile.....anyone have another sex comment,experience,unusual 'toy' they wish to share?..can we shed a little light on this particular device?i dare not goggle-afraid it would attract spamming ladys from wired world...no such thing as a free lunch or look....
LOL now I HAVE to google it - I'm at work but so I doubt anything will come up but I'm afraid to go home and look it up tonight and have my son catch me - oh my God that would kill him! You know us old people never had sex in our lives or something...or we stopped after we hit 25. But gosh I want to know.
I hate being so damn nosey!
I hate being so damn nosey!
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