Many Unanswered Questions

[KTStinn]

Hi,

My sexual partner (one time) had an outbreak of sores on her nose a couple of days after we had sex.  She said she never had any symptoms or an outbreak before and her doctor definitely said it was a herpes cold sore.  She feels like she got herpes from me because she performed oral sex on me.  So I went to get tested and I was told that I have the antibodies for herpes type 1.  I have never had cold sores or any symptoms as well.  

My questions are:  Could I have passed the herpes virus to her even though I don't have genital herpes?  Could it have been spread to her just by us kissing? Could she had exposed it to me?  How does this affect my sexual life? Do I have to use condoms all the time? and Does my partner have to use dental dams on me?  Will I be able to kiss anymore?  Will I be able to give my kids kisses?   Is there any way to tell how long you had the antibodies?

Just confused...but don't want to harm anyone or myself

[KTStinn]

Her doctor just visually said it was herpes.  She is suppose to go for blood work next week.  

[gracefromHHP]

you are testing + for hsv1. You don't recall ever having had symptoms either orally or genitally so odds are your hsv1 is oral. Most adults do have hsv1 orally andmost never get obvious cold sores to know it.

kissing is the main way hsv1 is transmitted to the oral area. If what is going on with your gf is herpes related, it's most likely from kissing you, not from performing oral on you.

did your gf's provider do any herpes testing on her or just visually say oral herpes without swabbing for herpes or bacteria?

grace

[wyg]

on her nose? was it swabbed? you said you have never had any symptoms of a cold sore right, so you may have hsv1 genitally or orally you dont and wont know unless you ever have symptoms. you do know that about 80% Of people have hsv1 right? so i really dont think kissing anyone would matter much, because there is a good possibility they already have it. it is usually acquired during childhood. if you have it genitally yes you deffinately would have to inform any partners. and just so ya know condoms dont always protect from transmission of herepes because it is on the skin and there is still skin conact even with a condom on. although yes it does help lower the risk of herpes transmission.