A question about STD

[CMM79]

Dear reader,

I have some kind of weird thing, let me explain:
About 2 weeks ago when I had intercourse with my
fiance, she sort of jumped a bit too hard on me and my penis
hurt when she did that. After a while there was a hard type of lump inside
where it hurted when she jumped on. First the lump was only easily to feel but
not visible and after a few days it came sort of more like on the surface of my skin.
Last week it broke open but I got pretty ill too, fever, cold feeling, headache and nauseous.
I read on the internet and i admit i have pretty much of the herpes side effects, except
I only had one type of blister (which i think it was caused because of the roughness)
This week I went to the doc and the doc told me that it is the classic herpes story.
Im still waiting for the test results, But I'm not really sure about that it is herpes.
The open wound heals good now, It was one broken lump/blister, and around it it's not red or anything.
I had a swollen
lymph in my groin but it's getting smaller now. There are a few things that I dont understand.
I have a skin burning sensation (not on my genital where the lump/blister is) but on the skin of my *** (not on my anus)
and on my back and the backside of the upperlegs (It burns but nothing is visible).
It feels like a sunburn and it is still spreading.
Another thing to notice is also that my dad have burning sensation feelings on his body and never had
it before.

Can it be possible that when my gf was a bit rough I
could have got a scar and be infected like something as the staphylococcus bacteria when i had a wound?

Thanks for reading

[gracefromHHP]

odds are she's been having symptoms and just never realized they were due to herpes before this more obvious recurrence of it.  

one of you had to have had herpes prior to meeting. it won't just pop up out of nowhere.

I can better help you both if you get her hsv igg blood test results to post here. also not a bad idea for you to also get a blood test done this week.

[CMM79]

Hi Grace,

For me they did do a swab test when I had a blister.
For her they did 2 bloodtests. a current which was negative, and a past herpes
test what was positive.

I agree that she could have it for a long time, but can it also take more than 2 years
before she get her first outbreak? I had my outbreak within 3-7 days when I was infected. Because she strongly thinks that she had her first
ever outbreak a week before I got infected. But we are 2 years together

Thanks for your time

[gracefromHHP]

yes she could have had herpes and never known it.   it's far more common than having it and knowing it actually.

what testing of yours came back hsv2+?

has your gf had testing yet?

[CMM79]

Today I did the hiv test and I need to await my results next week.
Today I discussed with the doc about the hsv virus.
My fiance told me that she had a wound between her anus and vagina, and that I
probably got it from that. But she never had an outbreak before, but now she told
me that she really felt bad a few weeks ago. Do doctor told me 'it could be possible' but was not really sure if she could carry the virus without having an outbreak in the last 2 years. The doctor thinks she also had her first ob just a week before I got it.

[gracefromHHP]

about half of the women I work with are always tired...lol. about half of those have sinus problems.  none of them have hiv as far as I know!  

certainly there are trust issues in this relationship.  perhaps couples counseling is the best course of action at this point to work through these issues before you spend even more money on a wedding?

[CMM79]

Thank you so much for your post Grace.
Im scared that I contracted something like hiv is that
she is a lot fatiqued since i know her and she almost always have
sinus problems. And she told me that her Ex cheated on her.
I also found profile of her online stating she was single and looking for
men to be date. All this kind of stuff really can't make me think normally.
First she tells me she have nothing, then she tells she got it from her bf.
She is just so shady in her anwers and I admit its hard to keep the faith
in our relation at this point. Now i need to do the tests next week and will wait
probably till after new Year.
Im seriously worried, but thats life.
Sorry if I sound too negative at the moment

[gracefromHHP]

at this point ask your gf to also get full std testing to see who has what. I'd assume nothing about this situation and since marriage is supposedly in your future, certainly making sure you both get tested and share test results is a good idea so there are no doubts about honesty about this situation as far as who was tested for what.  

so why would it take 2 years for you to contract hsv2 from her? Actually you could've went a lifetime without contracting it if she had it and you didn't.  The risk of transmission in general is low if the infected partner is aware that they have it and precautions are taken.  

yes indeed hsv2 does increase your risk of contracting hiv but thankfully the risk of your partner having hiv is low in general. both of you getting full testing done will help give you the peace of mind you need about that at this point.

keep asking questions!

grace

[CMM79]

Today the doctor contacted me and told me
that I have HSV-2. I got it from my fiancee, and the doc told
me that it's wise to test for everything including HIV.
My fiancee does a bit shady when i ask her about things
and first told me she did not have anything, but now she
said the got it from her ex probably 2 years ago.
I find it hard to believe because I would have contracted it
before right?. And im scared that i will have more diseases like hiv.
I feel **** today.

:(

[CMM79]

Here's a new update:

My dad went to the doctor and the doc told him
he had a mild case of herpes zoster/shingles.
The doc also said I could not have that case of herpes
because I have no rash or visible signs on the skin
where it burns.

[CMM79]

Today I needed to call the doctor for the results of the swab but
they did not came in there yet. My wound is healed now, its only a bump
under the skin now. And the burning skin is still spreading.
Wednesday I need to call again to check if they have the results yet.
Another thing that is weird is that my dad also have burning spots
on his body which he never had before. 2 days ago he couldnt sleep because
of the itching. He also have red bumps on his chest, but thats maybe
because of the scratching but its a weird coincidence.
I asked my mom of the maybe changed washing detergent and she said
that she did but that was 2 weeks ago. Im still hoping its no STD because
my fiance says she also never had any symptoms that look like herpes

[kdaily]

let us know what happens with the results.

[CMM79]

Thanks kdaily,
I will do that, its just that I try to find other
causes, but I probably need to accept it.
Hope to know the results soon

[kdaily]

I would await the results. Herpes sores don't always produce more then one sore. More sores are typical but every one is different. I highly doubt it was staph because it wouldn't have heals without the proper meds and it would have spread to your blood causing serious illness.

Again wait for your results and then follow up.