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Hi to anyone out there that might read this that has been through this before... I am 27 years old and was just diagnosed with ghsv-1. I know this is a medical forum, but I figured someone might have good advice with just how to deal with it in general. Six months ago my girlfriend of 6 years broke up... a few months later I had a rebound with a new partner (who didn't mention her cold sores until I notified her on my test result)... and ended up with hsv1 genitally. This diagnosis has 100% rocked my world and has done a number on me mentally... to be honest the physical part of that hasn't really been that bad for me...but it has been on my mind non stop, everyday, every minute since my doc told me. I feel like i have lost a huge part of myself in the last month and don't know how I am going to get through it. Being single at this point is also terrifying for me because now it makes finding someone that much harder....Scared to death
I realize you tested positive and are having some sort of breakout which all points to having it, having the sores not heal for over a month is quite a long time.
Blood test only confirm you have it but not where. I think you should have a culture done of a new sore within 48 hours as a positive culture would be conclusive.
My point is there is still a question here.
Blood test only confirm you have it but not where. I think you should have a culture done of a new sore within 48 hours as a positive culture would be conclusive.
My point is there is still a question here.
I can understand. But it could be worse. I think having it is bad but I would prefer to have it in the genitals than having it orally. At least the world doesn't have to know your having an outbreak. I've found this site helpful www.herpeslife.com.
Hey MAX G...I feel like the curse of this all is knowing that you have it... physically having the virus doesn't bother me that much ... the thought of what am I supposed to do now is the killer... how am I supposed to get myself back out there and get my confidence back you know? Every time I meet someone this will be the first thing on my mind...it's going to be awful...sorry I'm not very optimistic right in this moment...never in a million years did i ever think I would be in this situation, I've always been so safe and cautious with sex.
About 1-2 weeks after I was with this new partner I started to get this really weird tingling (unlike anything I had ever experienced) around my scrotum and anus (which I now know is prodrome)...Shortly after I got a really bad sore throat, swollen glands, muscle aches everywhere, fatigue, and a really deep lower back ache. Then came my lesions on my inner thigh/groin. The lesions themselves did not look like the typical herpes pictures that you see. They did not blister or ooze...they were more like a bunch of clustered ulcers in line with more clustered ulcers. They were not particularly painful or itchy or anything like that they were just there ( by the way its been a month and they have not completely healed, and I have had a few more develop and the prodrome has been non stop). Anyway I went to my doctor.... He looked at them and said he was going to test me for HSV 1 & 2. I had and IGG blood test done. The results for my HSV 2 were .01 which he said was negative, and my HSV 1 test was "greater than 5.0" Did not get an exact number, but it was greater than 5.0 and he said it was positive.
Now I have had both these tests done before with my prior g/f because we wanted to have ourselves tested for stds and herpes before we got too serious. At the time we were both negative for both HSV 1 & 2...So my HSV 1 results are new since her.
I know HSV 1 is extremely common, but just the idea that I have it genitally has made me feel completely helpless and hopeless. The psychological burden of this has been so hard for me...I know the chances are high that the next person I meet/date already has HSV 1, but just the idea of having that conversation is something I would be extremely embarrassed to have.
The sad thing is... I probably wouldn't even care if I had this orally. I wouldn't even think twice about it. I would have no problem telling someone that I get cold sores, but the fact that I will have to tell someone i break out with it in my genital region is a lot to handle...and the feeling alone of feeling it and seeing it in the genital area is a just as hard to handle.
Sorry I don't mean to unload it all here...i just don't have anyone to talk to about it.
Now I have had both these tests done before with my prior g/f because we wanted to have ourselves tested for stds and herpes before we got too serious. At the time we were both negative for both HSV 1 & 2...So my HSV 1 results are new since her.
I know HSV 1 is extremely common, but just the idea that I have it genitally has made me feel completely helpless and hopeless. The psychological burden of this has been so hard for me...I know the chances are high that the next person I meet/date already has HSV 1, but just the idea of having that conversation is something I would be extremely embarrassed to have.
The sad thing is... I probably wouldn't even care if I had this orally. I wouldn't even think twice about it. I would have no problem telling someone that I get cold sores, but the fact that I will have to tell someone i break out with it in my genital region is a lot to handle...and the feeling alone of feeling it and seeing it in the genital area is a just as hard to handle.
Sorry I don't mean to unload it all here...i just don't have anyone to talk to about it.
Hi, I can totally relate with what you are going through. Our stores kinda relate. Im 27 broke Up with my ex, hooked up with an old friend now i have ghsv1. no one is claiming they have it. It's hard mentally. I go through my highs and lows with this.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
