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Am I crazy for thinking about sex with an escort?
It's been awhile for me without any sexual activity and I'm starting to feel desperate enough to consider an escort. However, I am really nervous about the possibility of contracting herpes despite using a condom. Is there anything else I can do to try and avoid contracting hsv from a stranger like this? Thanks people.
I don't have a problem with her telling me to accept the risk or don't do it. She's right about that. I just don't dig coming home after a long day at work to get attacked by some raging PMS case who doesn't even know me.
I mean, yeah you are definitely right that it's not worth it a person can't get over the anxiety. But the way you go about getting your point across you come off as being totally jaded and sick of answering stupid questions regarding stds. If that is the case I don't know why you hang around on these boards just to belittle people who aren't as std knowledgeable as you are. Go find something that makes you happy instead.
waringblender, I appreciate the feedback but definitely don't appreciate all the garbage that you projected onto me. I didn't even go there, you did. You very quickly assumed that I look at escorts as like objects to come and use and try not to get infected by or something like that. Not the case. There is increased risk though and I just want to try and be the safest I can be before I jump in. Obviously I'll accept any risks associated when I do so. I don't know, I just don't appreciate the hostility and jumpiness over me for asking some safety questions, as naive as they were. I'm not here to be judged in that respect. I didn't realize my only options were to 1. just do it without a seconds thought beforehand or 2. get therapy. I don't know you so I won't judge you beyond your comments. I chalk it up to a misunderstanding.
LOL....you probably could pay to get laid cheaper than you can get a plumber to come to your house!!!
I think it's good to ask questions so you can make an informed decision whether to use a sex worker or not myself. I certainly agree though - if you think it will cause far too much anxiety for you, it's probably not a good idea.
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I think it's good to ask questions so you can make an informed decision whether to use a sex worker or not myself. I certainly agree though - if you think it will cause far too much anxiety for you, it's probably not a good idea.
grace
And by the way, there is absolutely nothing "desperate" about going to an escort. They are providing a service. A service that is in huge demand. One of my toilets has been broken for a couple of weeks. Unfortunately, that made me "desperate enough" to call a plumber. What the hell's the difference? I'm not embarrassed to call a plumber. He probably charges more than the hooker, for pete sake. It's just people providing a service.
Stop buying into lame stereotypes about sex workers. It's unbecoming. They're just trying to make a living like the rest of us.
Stop buying into lame stereotypes about sex workers. It's unbecoming. They're just trying to make a living like the rest of us.
My guess is that going to an escort is going to be too anxiety provoking for you, and you'll be back on this forum after it's over whining about how you did something really "stupid" and believing your peen is about to fall off.
Seriously, do you even hear what you are saying here? Boxer shorts and Saran wrap or paper wrapping or whatever? Millions of men have sex with hookers and escorts 24/7 every single day and they don't ruminate and spin the way you are doing. Maybe they understand the low risks, but even if they don't, they just don't go into a tailspin about it BEFORE THEY EVEN DO IT!!
Just rent a porno tape and jack off. Your anxiety will thank you. If you can't move past the anxiety, get some therapy.
Seriously, do you even hear what you are saying here? Boxer shorts and Saran wrap or paper wrapping or whatever? Millions of men have sex with hookers and escorts 24/7 every single day and they don't ruminate and spin the way you are doing. Maybe they understand the low risks, but even if they don't, they just don't go into a tailspin about it BEFORE THEY EVEN DO IT!!
Just rent a porno tape and jack off. Your anxiety will thank you. If you can't move past the anxiety, get some therapy.
Most of us contract cmv , hhv6 and ebv during childhood. 1/3 of us contract hsv1 before we step into kindergarten too. Chances are that nothing but the possible hsv2 infection have anything to do with using an escort. Not sure why you are associating all of this with it.
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thanks very much Grace. I am wondering if there is any addition protection options besides a condom during intercourse. I know it's kinda wierd but I was thinking about pulling my penis out through the slit in my underwear or possibly using a sheet to try and cover genital areas that are obviously not covered by a condom. Any thoughts?
Much appreciated really.
Much appreciated really.
My 2 cents on this is - depending on the escort, depends on your risk. All sex is risky - the concept of safe sex outside of a long term monogamous relationship is pretty much a fairy tale. A $10 hooker on a vegas street corner probably isn't getting routine std testing done and will probably agree to sex without a condom for a few dollars more. I think this is an incidence where it's worth paying for someone who's looking after their own health better. Also feel free to ask what testing they have done and when - no guarantee's they'll be honest with you but it's no less risky than asking someone you pick up at a bar to have sex with about their testing. Wear a condom and your risk from a one time encounter is really low. Honestly not all sex workers are walking around with loads of std's. Many of them are properly educated on how to reduce their risk and take precautions seriously.
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Please reconsider. Don't give into temptation. It is simply not worth doing it. Please please reconsider.
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