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Cannot seem to find an answer anywhere... hope you can help.
So, I am with a partner who was diagnosed with hsv2 (an ex partner told him after the fact), but has never had an outbreak, and due to some minor (but I guess, major enough) fooling around between us, I now have oral hsv2 within a couple of weeks of us beginning contact. Ok, so its happened and I'm not going to spend a lot of time being upset about it, but I would like to understand some very specific things as I move forward and you good people seem to have a wealth of knowledge about things that I am having a hard time finding doing standard research.
1) Since this is my initial outbreak, how long will I shed ie: when can I kiss my kids again (after sores have healed)?
2) Since I have oral HSV2, and the partner who I got it from has never had an outbreak, can I still shed the virus back to him and cause him to have an OB when not I'm not having an OB? In other words, can I cause him to have genital or oral OB from my oral HSV shedding, even though we have the same strain?
3) Do I subject myself to an OB again if I give oral sex to him (presumably when he is not having an OB)? ie: new sores, new places etc due to his shedding (which is how I got it in the first place)
4) Can I get HSV2 in the genital region from him now that Ive already gotten in in the oral region from him? (again, presumably when he is not having an OB, as my understanding is that you can even infect yourself in a new region when having an OB) so my question is can I get it in the genital area when he is just shedding but not active?
5) How common is it for those with Oral HSV2 to shed and spread to others ie: kids, friends after the initial OB and while no symptoms are present?
6) Not withstanding manual transmission of infected fluid from one place on the body to another, will I ever spontaneously get sores in new places in subsequent OB's that I did not get them in during the first OB?
You guys are the best. I appreciate your time in answering any or all of these questions as you are saving me a lot of time and headache.
JA
PS: I believe this to be HSV2 because I already have HSV1 (orally) since I was a kid and know exactly what that looks and feel like and this was NOTHING like that and, my partner has been tested since his last partner and is HSV1 negative. This was extremely painful, with a lot of pain, tingling, numbness is the spot for about 12 hours before a huge blister appeared that eventually began to scab but weeped fluid for two weeks before starting to go away. Huge, gross, painful beyond anything that I have every had before with my other HSV1 and previous to this partner I had been in a monogamous marriage for over 16 years.
1) Since this is my initial outbreak, how long will I shed ie: when can I kiss my kids again (after sores have healed)?
2) Since I have oral HSV2, and the partner who I got it from has never had an outbreak, can I still shed the virus back to him and cause him to have an OB when not I'm not having an OB? In other words, can I cause him to have genital or oral OB from my oral HSV shedding, even though we have the same strain?
3) Do I subject myself to an OB again if I give oral sex to him (presumably when he is not having an OB)? ie: new sores, new places etc due to his shedding (which is how I got it in the first place)
4) Can I get HSV2 in the genital region from him now that Ive already gotten in in the oral region from him? (again, presumably when he is not having an OB, as my understanding is that you can even infect yourself in a new region when having an OB) so my question is can I get it in the genital area when he is just shedding but not active?
5) How common is it for those with Oral HSV2 to shed and spread to others ie: kids, friends after the initial OB and while no symptoms are present?
6) Not withstanding manual transmission of infected fluid from one place on the body to another, will I ever spontaneously get sores in new places in subsequent OB's that I did not get them in during the first OB?
You guys are the best. I appreciate your time in answering any or all of these questions as you are saving me a lot of time and headache.
JA
PS: I believe this to be HSV2 because I already have HSV1 (orally) since I was a kid and know exactly what that looks and feel like and this was NOTHING like that and, my partner has been tested since his last partner and is HSV1 negative. This was extremely painful, with a lot of pain, tingling, numbness is the spot for about 12 hours before a huge blister appeared that eventually began to scab but weeped fluid for two weeks before starting to go away. Huge, gross, painful beyond anything that I have every had before with my other HSV1 and previous to this partner I had been in a monogamous marriage for over 16 years.
it's unfortunate that you declined the lesion culture to confirm hsv2 orally. since it typically doesn't reoccur very often, no way to know for sure that that is what is going on.
just to confirm, how was your partner diagnosed as having hsv2?
( I really will get to your other questions )
just to confirm, how was your partner diagnosed as having hsv2?
( I really will get to your other questions )
It is my understanding that you can get both herpes simplex 1 and 2 on the genital area but not hsv2 in the mouth simply because that virus "prefers" genital area. I could be wrong on this then that will suck!
So now you don't know if you have hsv2 so if in fact you don't it's likely to contract the virus from your partner especially through unprotected sex.
If sex will cause an OB, of course if you never had it then it has to be through sexual activities. But if you mean recurrence after initial OB then not really but not impossible. Since the virus will be control by immune system, it would be due to immune system related to cause an occurrence ( such as stress, cold when your immune system is under attack).
Please do draw a blood test for herpes to confirm but meanwhile use proctection during sex. You haven't had full blown OB on your genital area don't assume you have the virus. Simply because you have cold sites in your mouth.
I believe your partner won't get from you on his genital because he already has hsv2.
So now you don't know if you have hsv2 so if in fact you don't it's likely to contract the virus from your partner especially through unprotected sex.
If sex will cause an OB, of course if you never had it then it has to be through sexual activities. But if you mean recurrence after initial OB then not really but not impossible. Since the virus will be control by immune system, it would be due to immune system related to cause an occurrence ( such as stress, cold when your immune system is under attack).
Please do draw a blood test for herpes to confirm but meanwhile use proctection during sex. You haven't had full blown OB on your genital area don't assume you have the virus. Simply because you have cold sites in your mouth.
I believe your partner won't get from you on his genital because he already has hsv2.
Also, forgot to say that I felt very unwell for about three days before symptoms until about 5 days after the blisters appeared. Had extreme fatigue, terrific headache, and body aches. Was pretty sure I was getting a flu, although it wasn't the proper time of year for such.
Also, my partner was experiencing an extremely high level of stress for those few weeks due to a life changing event.
Also, my partner was experiencing an extremely high level of stress for those few weeks due to a life changing event.
No, no confirmed culture as of yet. The doctor offered but I declined for now as I am in the process of trying to buy private health insurance and already having a hard time because of minuscule other things. Didn't want to add this to the list until insurance is secured.
However, she looked at it and gave me a script for Valtrex. It started out as a cluster of three or four blisters that eventually crusted over into one seeping thing on the upper lip and never spread to anywhere else. Actually, now that I'm thinking about it, a couple of days before that happened, there were two small white blisters that hurt a lot under my tounge but those were already starting to stop hurting by the time the lip one started. Considering my lack of exposure and these types of symptoms before this encounter, I cant imagine it being anything else.
This is someone that I plan on being with for a very long time, so I want to keep us both safe, but also not overdo the protection level if its not necessary kwim?
However, she looked at it and gave me a script for Valtrex. It started out as a cluster of three or four blisters that eventually crusted over into one seeping thing on the upper lip and never spread to anywhere else. Actually, now that I'm thinking about it, a couple of days before that happened, there were two small white blisters that hurt a lot under my tounge but those were already starting to stop hurting by the time the lip one started. Considering my lack of exposure and these types of symptoms before this encounter, I cant imagine it being anything else.
This is someone that I plan on being with for a very long time, so I want to keep us both safe, but also not overdo the protection level if its not necessary kwim?
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