Condom, valtrex, and no visible outbreak. What are the chances?

[Mhwm1976]

HSV2 positive for female 14 years. Recently had sex using a condom with no visible outbreak. I had been taking Valtrex for 9 or 10 days prior. His penis may have touched my vagina while he was getting the condom open, but there was no unprotected penetration. Is it very likely I could have passed this on to him?

[Mhwm1976]

Thanks you :)

[gracefromHHP]

honey it's just herpes!!!  really not a reason to stress yourself out like this!! you aren't a walking biohazard!!

you  being on daily suppressive therapy with valtrex, using condoms and avoiding sex anytime you have anything going on genitally means he's 99% likely over the course of a year NOT to contract hsv2 from you. to give you something to compare it to, if you only used the birth control pill for pregnancy prevention, you are only 92% likely each year not to get pregnant.  far more likely to have to raise a child together with someone than it is you'd transmit your herpes to them.  

[Mhwm1976]

Thanks for your help here. I feel a little ridiculous for obsessing over this, it's just this was my first time being intimate with someone new in 14 years.

Today has been 20 days since we had sex. He has not experienced an outbreak, but I tell you I have stressed over every single thing headache, backache, or allergy symptom he casually mentioned and googled to see if it could be related.

Since he has gone 20 days without rash/blister/redness/itchy skin or fever... Do you think it is safe to assume he did not contract this from me?

With all this being said, I think it is obvious I'm not mentally prepared for a sexual relationship right now. I have literally freaked myself out beyond words over the last 20 days. I'm surprised I didn't cause myself an outbreak.

[gracefromHHP]

it's from multiple shedding studies.

[Mhwm1976]

Grace,
I was wondering where you got the info on valtrex being used for at least 5 days to ensure decreased viral shedding?

Thanks

[Mhwm1976]

So true! Thanks again!!

[gracefromHHP]

yep - you are your own worse enemy at this point!!!

he'll need to make sure he seeks out herpes testing. why worry about transmission if he already has it?

[Mhwm1976]

Thank you!
Yes, we discussed it but I tend to worry. He seemed weird a few days later, so I assumed it was on his mind. Now I've been checking myself obsessively and paying attention to anything he may say that leads me to think he is experiencing anything related. Im literally counting down the 20 days that all the information say is likey outbreak time frame. Ugh. I know am am probsbly causing myself a lot of anxiety here. He has been std tested, but he was not sure if herpes was included because they do not always test for it.

[gracefromHHP]

if you two did nothing but avoid sex any time you had anything going on genitally, he'd be 96% likely NOT to contract hsv2 from you if you had sex regularly for an entire year.  if you throw in daily suppressive therapy and condom use, the odds of his staying hsv2 free go up to 99% on average.

bottom line is it's very unlikely you transmitted your hsv2 to your partner.

have the two of you discussed your herpes? has your partner been tested to know their own status?

grace