No symptoms but open relationship. Always safe. Should I calm down?

[OregonFX]

My wife and I are Poly and have been in the lifestyle for around 5-8 years.  We always practiced safe sex and had the talk with partners.  I've been more active than her but I wouldn't ever say we are as active as many others.  We had never been tested.  

She has a new partner (just the one) and he wants to be fluid bonded.  I'm not sure I'm ok with this and a discussion will ensue.  

Anyway, she got hers and it came back clean as we assumed.  We've been having safe sex since then, even using a dental dam.  I've slowed down at work and went in for a test now, a month later.  Planned Parenthood was super great and gave me the information I totally should have known before.  My test results are two weeks out but now I'm questioning myself even before the results.  I'd appreciate somebody telling me the truth and giving me their opinion on my questions, please.  


Facts,

Our partners have never reported symptoms.

Neither of us has ever had symptoms. Not even cold sores that I remember though I had them before dating as a kid.  We've been married 20 years now.

Again, her test just taken was negative.

I am 47.  Around 19-20 years old I had a partner who admitted to having herpes.  I chose to have safe sex with her.  That was 22-25 years ago.


The NP at Planned Parenthood just wanted to a swab me, not covering HIV or Herpes.  I insisted I wanted it all on account of us all agreeing on full panels, so I'm headed to a lab.

M wife's new partner is smart.  Turned out he was in my industry and our occupation relates to medical.  He is clean.

The Planned Parenthood NP felt that the HP blood test isn't entirely accurate.   There are false positives and false negatives.  But if I wanted to pay for it to go for it.

Should I be concerned?  The NP didn't seem to be concerned have the same info I am stating here.

Now that I've read up more on Herpes (thanks to PP), I see now it can linger forever without symptoms.  I just want somebody's opinion before my tests come back.  If they come back positive, at this point I'll abstain for another 90 days and try again I suppose to confirm it was accurate.  Of course, if it comes back negative that time, I'll probably abstain another 90 days to be sure.  sheesh.

So again,

I should have little concern.  Would people agree?  If you say I should worry so be it.  I'll go on with my life and see what the tests say.

Is the test really not accurate?

How does everybody feel about the fluid bonding?  I think she's probably ok to trust him, but then what about his wife?  We don't know her well enough to trust her, though they're currently both negative.  Your thoughts please.  

All of a sudden I'm thinking tests for every new partner tests every 6 months, and no fluid bonding, ever.

[feelingundone]

I wouldn't be worried. Herpes blood testing should only be done with an igg bloodtest and never wirh the igm. Igm is wrought with false positives. Igg bloodtests for hsv2 are very good. Low false positives can happen but the test is 92% accurate when reporting a negative result. These tests look for antibodies so it can take time to build them. 12 weeks from last exposure is considered conclusive. Igg for hsv1 isn't as good and it can miss up to 30% of infections. Either way you and your wifes protected behavior is excellent protection and your partners are od the low risk variety. Again, try not to over stress. Let me know when you fet your results or if you have other questions.