Have I spread HSV?

[Aeropedlar]

I have had hsv 2 for more than 10 years. I recently became involved with a girl and although we have not had intercourse or oral sex of any kind, we have had body rubbing and hand to genital contact but during the body rubbing, my pants never came off. I am well aware of what it feels like right before and during I have a break out as in tingling, skin sensitivity and pain. The day of my last encounter with her was two weeks ago and included  abdominal/skin to skin contact, I realized that I had small sores on my lower abdominal area, just below my naval and in my genital area. They were small and red and I recognized them from previous breakouts. Again, we did not have intercourse nor did she touch my genitals this day but I did touch her and our stomachs were in contact. Of course there was kissing. Because I knew that I have hsv 2, I made it a point to not have sex until I talked about it with my potential partner but in the heat of making out, I think I may have gone too far and infected her. Now I am scared as she complained once (about a week ago) that she was nauseous and her stomach hurt and another day she said her spine hurts.  Today she told me that she had a horrible headache... All normal conditions that happen to everyone but these are also hsv 2 infection symptoms. Other than these symptoms, she has not said anything and acts completely fine

It seems that from what I've read in this forum that the chances of this kind of contact spreading HSV would be rare but I am gripped with fear that I've spread hsv 2.

Can anyone help me?

[gracefromHHP]

you can have other issues going on further complicating things - mimicking herpes or triggering it to be more active. fungal infections in male as well as dermatological conditions can be an issue too.

we should be talking about std's, testing , birth control and condom use with every potential partner.  it's as much about protecting yourself as protecting a partner from what you know you have. just not much romance in talking about peeing in a cup, warts and condoms ;)

[Aeropedlar]

What else could it be besides herpes? I mean it quacks like a duck... Must be a duck? What I mean is, I know what a BO feels like, I know it goes away faster with valtrex, I know I have (had) fewer OB's with it... Is there something I don't know?

I am going to have a talk with my potential partner this weekend. That's scary..... I understand why people don't have that talk (even though they should)... Know what I mean?

[Aeropedlar]

That makes a lot of sence. So, even if I've responded well to valtrex in the past, and not so well now, it doesn't mean that the valtrex isn't doing it's job?

[gracefromHHP]

no the virus hasn't adapted.  you will still have ob's while on suppressive therapy however you need to make sure that it's all herpes going on and not something else.

you really need a proper herpes test done to know if you have hsv1 or hsv2.  You can get a type specific herpes igg blood test done or try to get your next ob cultured and typed. You can't make educated decisions about what precautions to take with a partner until you know who has what. A visual diagnosis isn't adequate.

[Aeropedlar]

Yes, I am on suppressive therapy right now, valtrex. Originally, I wasn't tested. I went and saw a doctor who is a friend of mine. He said it was herpes and got me on valtrex. I took Valtrex only when I would break out but then it became more frequent so I got in suppressive therapy. Ingesting though, Im back to breaking out frequently. Has the virus adapted?

[gracefromHHP]

correct - it's not likely she contracted hsv2 from you from this contact.  Also the symptoms you describe don't sound like hsv2 related. have you had these cultured in the past to confirm herpes?



are you on daily suppressive therapy to reduce your partner's risk of contracting hsv2 from you?  How were you originally tested for herpes?

grace