As an adult, oral herpes is almost exclusively transmitted thru romantic type kisses. You aren't going to get it off of utensils or from sharing drinks with someone. It's still best though if someone has an active cold sore present that they not share food and drinks with someone who isn't sure of their hsv1 status just to err on the side of caution.
You aren't going to get herpes on your eye from the scenerio you described. Many other infections are transmitted that way - most of them the common run of the mill cold type infections.
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Oral herpes is transmitted through kissing (passionate), or through oral sex (oral to genital contact).
Would you mind commenting? I've read you can get then from sharing a glass or utensil so by the same logic if someone has a significant amount of virus on the hands or in their saliva and then you touch the same object and then touch your face/mouth, would this be a possible way of getting HSV-1/cold sores?