There is a condition similar to IBS it's called Diverticulitis or Diverticular Disease and can cause stools to be hard and difficult to pass there is usually mucus and sometimes blood as well with this condition you need to be sure that any blood you see in your stools is fresh ( bright red) and not old blood ( dark in color ) the fresh blood is often from tears in the skin due to difficult bowel movements you may also have a haemorroid or fissure around your anal region that will certainly bleed of your pressing down hard all the time,I would be inclined to think your problems are arising from a bowel problem rather than Herpes, you need to tell your Doctor the full extent of this and how long it's been going on, in the meantime up your fibre intake and see if that helps any towards making your bowel movements easier all that pressure will surely cause anal issues, I would be a bit concerend about the all over rash also so be sure to inform your Doctor about all these things so that he has a full history of whats been going on ..... whatever it is it needs further investigation and follow up you have had too many things going on one after the other to ignore.
I personally don't think it's anything to do with Herpes I think your problems are stemming from the bowel which in turn can cause bladder and urinary infections if bacteria gets into the urethra .....
You definately need a full medical work up to find out exactly whats causing all this ....
Daisy
A little sidenote, my boyfriend was tested for everything about 3 months ago during a hospital admission and he tested negatively. We have unprotected sex so if I had it laying dormant in me after 1 year of unprotected sex with each other wouldn't he be infected by then?
I'm not too sure it is herpes because if it was you will have a big outbreak first then get one or two sores after the first outbreak. Herpes type 2 will be mostly around the vagina but it can sometime go near the anus without having anal sex. I been living with it for over 6 years now and never got it there but it can go to the anus area. I think you see the doctor again and tell them about the blood in the stool because it might be something else. Hope this help you out a bit.