I'm 21, just graduated from uni. I should be on top of the world but no I've just been diagnosed with type 1 genial herpes. I've been with my boyfriend a year (3 months exclusively to each other). I had a hard time a couple of years ago partying too hard, taking things I shouldn't and yes sleeping around. There's no point deny it, I wasn't always careful and I wasn't sensible I've come to terms with that. My boyfriend had had a similar past and had got his life on track and he's really helped me get out of the hole I was in. This time last year I was dropping out of uni. I graduate in 2 weeks so yes I have turned my life around completely and I was so proud of myself and then I get this news and I don't know what to do.
In myself I feel I have accepted it and I don't feel the things I did when I first found out my main problem is how this affects my boyfriend. Now he has been amazing I couldn't ask for a better reaction. He took me to a gum clinic, he told my parents, he's openly discussed what I need, ran me small baths to help me use the toilet. He even asked if I'd show him when I felt ready so I'd know there's nothing that would make him feel differently about me and considering his arousal at just seeing that area even with infection I believe him. It's me I feel awful for making him have to deal with this, forcing on him a reminder of my past life. Our relationship has been built around our sex life, it's how we talk best and it's going to change it so much. I don't know how to deal with that. I feel awful that if I haven't already I could infect him and the guilt is just killing me. We've discussed condoms, he wants to carry on as normal (we don't use them) and says he has every intention of marrying me some day so it's a risk he's willing to take. I on the other hand want to use them, I'd never forgive myself. It's caused arguments because I've tried to be logical saying we can't guarantee forever at such a young age and I'm not willing to give him this. It makes sense in my head not to him.
I need advice on dealing with this in relationships and how I can feel more comfortable about it, if he is so understanding.
Thank you