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Just diagnosed and scared
I got diagnosed last week, and told my girlfriend. She feels like I have betrayed her because of this and I feel horribly guilty. I never knew I had this and insisted we both get tested once we became active. I can't talk to anyone but her and when I do, she makes me feel worse. I feel like I will never be loved again. My doctor just told me to take Valtrex and gave me some Xanax for the anxiety. The Xanax has helped me a little at keeping the darker thoughts down, but I still feel very alone.
As I said in your other post- you really can't assume anything at this point. You both need more testing first. Instead of feeling guilty and letting your gf feel betrayed - you both need to pursue testing to get to the bottom of this.
grace
grace
I understand I was diagnose a year it will be going on two years and i have Yet to cop with the news
Doctors see herpes all the time.They don't think it's a big deal. I dated a doctor not too long ago and when I asked him about the statistics of it (like 1 in 4 have genital), he said, "Sh*t, it's gotta be more than that. I see it several times every day in my practice."
Did the two of you not have blood tests yet? If you didn't, then maybe the girlfriend passed it to you. If your girlfriend can't muster up the empathy and caring for you to stick around after this, then you should consider exiting the relationship. You can do better.
I think when you're first diagnosed, it's important not to have symptoms. Stay on the meds if it means eliminating the symptoms of outbreaks. It can be hard enough psychologically knowing you have this without the added discomfort of the episodes. There must be some friend you can confide in about this. It's so common that most everybody either has it themselves (!) or they know somebody with it. Good luck.
Did the two of you not have blood tests yet? If you didn't, then maybe the girlfriend passed it to you. If your girlfriend can't muster up the empathy and caring for you to stick around after this, then you should consider exiting the relationship. You can do better.
I think when you're first diagnosed, it's important not to have symptoms. Stay on the meds if it means eliminating the symptoms of outbreaks. It can be hard enough psychologically knowing you have this without the added discomfort of the episodes. There must be some friend you can confide in about this. It's so common that most everybody either has it themselves (!) or they know somebody with it. Good luck.
Thanks for the help. I don't know anyone that has admitted to having this. I guess that is the hard part. How do you find out which friends have it? People tend to be judgemental about this. I have had past friends that would talk very poorly about people that come out about have this. I am really glad now that I stopped being friends with them, but I wonder about my current friends and how they will react.
WAIT A MINUTE.. Newbie, no where in your post does it tell what sort of test you took. Did you take one of them usless IGM Tests or the specific IGG one? Your Doctor might have found HSV 1 in your which is in a LOT of people so don't be so down yet till you know for sure what sort of test he gave you. Family Dr's are clueless on STD's. They feel Oral Herpes is an STD and it just isn't so since most people contract it when they are little kids. Don't be down yet till you provide more information here.
I'm sorry that you're having all these mixed feelings. I know what it can do to someone. You will find someone who will love you and appreciate you so if she's not willing to do it its time to find someone new.
You don't have to tell your friends I mean it is something very personal and not everyone needs to know your personal life. If I was you I would get counseling to help deal with all the mixed emotions, but I would only do this after confirming the results. Don't drown in a cup if water if its not needed.
Should you need to talk you can contact me at any time.
You don't have to tell your friends I mean it is something very personal and not everyone needs to know your personal life. If I was you I would get counseling to help deal with all the mixed emotions, but I would only do this after confirming the results. Don't drown in a cup if water if its not needed.
Should you need to talk you can contact me at any time.
I have found it rather easy to get info from my friends. I basically said I had not been treating myself right and it's taken a big toll on my health. It's almost like people who have it can feel the vibe and pick right up on what you are saying. I have been going through this for 3 months. I have found 3 friends that have it. All in their 50's and had long term marriages, etc. None of them I would have guessed. It's been a real eye opener for me.
I agree with warningblender. It is stressful enough between outbreaks and having one just makes it that much worse. It's time to take care of you and do what you need to for yourself to rejuvinate.
I agree with warningblender. It is stressful enough between outbreaks and having one just makes it that much worse. It's time to take care of you and do what you need to for yourself to rejuvinate.
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