I guess I'm trying to understand what sort of chance I have here? If I come clean it will ruin lives....if it's a miniscule risk considering my story I can take the guilt and work on being a better person. I can't change the past but I can certainly make the future great..
Is it worth me destroying my partners life and our relationship?
If there's still a very good chance I can pass something on maybe I have to come clean and destroy our relationship we have built over the years. This woman means the world to me and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I just know telling her of my mistake will end everything
The thing is, this is a one off mistake that I assure you.
If I tell her not only will it break her heart but will certainly end our relationship.
I know I can be the best partner ever and give this woman my all moving forward. I just wish I had one chance to make her happy
Unfortunately, swabs risk false negatives if not done less than 48 hours after first presenting. According to Dr. Anna Wald at the University of Washington, it can take up to 4 months to trigger an accurate positive on a blood test.
I'm afraid any guesses we make given the information you've given us would not be responsible behavior on our part. Condoms provide about 30% protection from contracting HSV. However, such statistics are not helpful, as all it takes is one time to be among those who contract the virus. There is no 100% guarantee of either outcome.
It's imperative to repeat, however, that you do not have any evidence that you have HSV. I recommend you order a Western Blot test at 4 months past exposure if you want a conclusive result.
If it were me, I would disclose to my partner, and avoid gambling with her health. However, this is your call. Good luck to you.
Thanks for the comment,
Just to add to all this my inguinal lymph nodes are enlarged and slightly uncomfortable since the first lump appeared. The one were assuming is a foliculitis.
I ran through a 5 day course of kefelexin which certainly helped with inflammation and is no longer sore. The lump is slowly shrinking under the surface
You seem perfectly fine to me I would go back to having sex with my partner. Based on the symptoms you described, the fact that you practiced safe sex and it was brief, the negative test results, and your doctors' opinions I would say you are in the clear and can rest at ease.