I'm a 38 yr old man. I had unprotected sex with two different women. The second woman recently had a positive HSV culture from a small lesion on her labia. I requested a full STD screening, as well as test for HSV. At the time of the tests, it had been 9 and 7 weeks since my encounters with the two women. All STD results were negative, including a negative IgM. I've never had, nor currently have any symptoms or indications of the virus.
The doctor insisted that I'm fine, to accept the result, be more responsible and move on. Another doctor explained that I am now simply part of a very large population that are, or may be infected, but not aware, nor will likely ever know or have reason to believe they are, and better off not knowing, since the detrimental social and pyschological affects greatly outweigh the alternative.
I questioned both doctors about an IgG test. Both felt it was not necessary, but if I insisted, would order the test.
I am incredibly stressed about this and have not slept well in weeks. The negative IgM result was a huge relief. However, as I understand, may only be encouraging news, and not accurate. I am terrified to return and do yet another test (IgG), and wait for the results.
I've heard and read so many different bits of advice from people in, or associated with, the medical field about how common HSV is (prevalence of un-diagnosed, asymptomatic carriers), the social and psychological affects of knowing, why its not part of standard screenings, your better off not knowing, etc... I'm not sure what to do at this point. And frankly am very scared.
Do I go ahead with an IgG test? Are the potential social and psychological affects worth having?