oral herpes;; i think im paranoid!!

[denny101]

after hooking up nd making out with a guy; i found out he has oral herpes
at first i didnt take notice at his lips. i just saw that it was extremely extremely dry
no bleeding or cold sores were visible. just DRY.
now im super paranoid about it; what are the chances of me getting it?
i noticed my lips are starting to get dry to but maybe its the weather change since it is getting colder these days/
but i keep reapplying chapstick on and always checking up on my lip every other minute!
i hooked up with him twice and its been almost 5 days
i dont have any cuts on my lips or any strange bumps

am i paranoid? or is ther something up??

[gracefromHHP]

I removed your other post on this. Please keep all questions to this post and not make new ones each time - thanks!

Have you ever been tested to know your own hsv1 status? As herpessucks pointed out - it's incredibly common ( in the US it's about 60% of adults though I'm guessing you are on the youngish side so that number is lower in your age group ) and a lack of obvious cold sores doesn't mean you don't have it.  However it sounds like you have chapped lips as you yourself already said is incredibly common this time of the year. Stop obsessively checking your lips and get back to enjoying life as usual.

grace

[herpessucks]

I’m not trying to be rude to you but 4 out or 5 people have oral herpes. (80% of the population) Some people get it as kids, do not even know, and symptoms never really show then, or later in life. Some people have oral herpes and have “cold sores” If you ask a doctor they will tell you most people have HSV1 which is oral herpes. “Its really not a big deal”!( this is a quote from my doctor) But you need to know that if this person has a cold sore on their mouth you should refrain from kissing, sharing cups, or oral sex until a few days after the cold sore is gone. They can also take medication to lower the number of days the sore is present. I know so many people with HSV1 “cold sore” and there is really no way for you to know you don’t have HSV1 unless you have had a blood test. My doctor said it’s so common that they don’t really order expensive tests for something so common. For the most part HSV1 is not really harmful, it can not kill you, keep you from reproducing, or cause cancer like other disease can. The best thing to do is talk to this person about it! They have been living with it and can give you more information! Just remember, just because you don’t get cold sore does not mean you don’t have HSV1! If you want more information get this book called living and loving with herpes it is a great source of information. Don’t feel bad, before I got herpes I did not really know much about it! Now I have open discussion with my doctor, and have read almost every legitimate piece of information I can get my hands on. I hope you feel better, and remember talking openly with a romantic interest is always your best bet!