Wow you really are spinning.
You're fine. Let it go. If you can't let it go, get therapy. You obviously feel guilty about stepping out on wifey. If that's the case, address THAT issue because you don't have herpes from the encounters you described. Yikes.
Thanks for your comments they have made me feel a little more hopeful, I have read so much on the subject that I no longer know what to believe. You're right I do feel incredibly guilty about being unfaithful and maybe I'm sort of punishing myself, problem is I don't know how I can hope to 'get back to normal' without knowing for sure. Maybe in time the fear will subside. Thanks again.