Am I just being paranoid?

[concernedtim]

hi there.

i 'have' posted before, however this is a different issue completely so i thought it best to open a new thread.

after being fully cleared and convinced that my unprotected encounter from 13 weeks ago lead to no infection of any kind, for the first time since then i had sexual contact last night. this time i had PROTECTED oral and vaginal sex with an 18 y/o female (recently out of a long relationship, if it makes a difference). anyway, it was pitch black and since i was quite intoxicated i found it hard to remain fully erect. anyway, i put the condom on and i tried to pinch air of it and get it all the way down etc. managed to cover as far as the condom would go (which is correct use i assume) and then i had a few minutes or so of oral and vaginal sex (actually didn't ejaculate as I masturbated myself afterwards for ejaculation). anyway, it was pitch black and it was thus hard to notice how well the condom was working (was it slipping etc), but i'm pretty sure it stayed on, but i can't be 100%, i do believe that perhaps during it there may have been a little bit of the base of the penis not covered, but each time we shifted position i think i pulled the condom back down. when it came to pulling it out, the condom was still partly in when i ejected my penis (i just think it was cause i was ejecting my penis and just slipped out in the process).

questions:
1. what's ur initial impression of this? am i being silly in thinking anything may have resulted?
2. do i need to worry about the occasional instance of the condom not covering the full base of the penis? (slipping up occasionally)
3. if the condom had broke at all in the pitch black, is it likely that i would've felt this or noticed it in some other way? since i wasn't fully erect the entire time it's conceivable this could've happened i suppose

thanks

[gracefromHHP]

is it worth this amount of worrying? no it is not.

[concernedtim]

thanks for your reply grace. i really should abstain in these circumstances, but i guess both times it 'just happened'.

my main concern is, it was pitch black and i can't guarantee the proper use efficacy of the condom (may have slid up my penis from time to time, exposing the base of my penis) or something like that. is that a needless worry? if i pulled the condom out and could feel that it was covering most of my penis and the top didn't feel ripped or torn can i still label this as "safe sex"?

[gracefromHHP]

we recommend protected sex because it works. hpv. herpes and syphilis are the only risk from protected sex and the risk of those is very low.

you have a lot of anxiety about your sexual encounters - why not abstain unless you've had time to talk about std's, testing etc with partners and know they are trustworthy before having sex so you don't have this level of concern?

grace