Also I poked at a few places on the lips that I thought could be blisters with a needle and I didn't get blood but I also didn't get fluid. If that makes any sense.
Sorry Nick. I don't think it's possible to give an opinion on this. But you saw a derm and they didn't think it was anything to be worried about. It doesn't get much better than that.
Generally, I would think that the chances of catching this from a quick kissing session (when you didn't even see a lesion) are a bit low to say the least. I am positive for HSV1 because I had cold sores as a kid. I haven't had a cold sore on my lips for decades now. I will blushingly admit to having had my fair share of kisses and have kissed thousands of people on the cheek in the past few years. Guess what! I have never passed HSV1 to anybody. But, even if I had, frankly it would not be the end of the world. In common with most people on the planet, you may already have it.
This doesn't sound herpes related. For goodness sake, don't poke at your lips with a needle enough to make them bleed!
Oral herpes is incredibly common; about 60% of the adult population has it and most of us won't make it to the old folks home without it.
Could you have oral herpes? Sure - many of us get it in childhood. Perhaps become educated and give up the fear of what it is. Pretty much 1 out of every 2-3 people you kiss will have oral herpes.
Read more here to become educated:
http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm oral herpes