Hello, about 19 days ago, a girl performed oral sex on me. We used a condom, but she spit on my penis a couple of times before she put it on. A few days later, I had a burning sensation before and sometimes during urinating. About 5 days after the contact I was tested for std's. Everything came back normal, except my IgM antibodies, which was .91, which is the lowest part of the range for indeterminate. I've been told that this test is highly inaccurate and that I shouldn't worry about having herpes. About 8 days after the contact, I noticed a red bump on my penis. My urologist and another doctor both told me it definitely wasn't herpes. But I'm still worried that it is. It's been 19 days now, and I'm still having burning (mild) when I urinate and the red bump is still there but it has not turned into an open sore or anything. I recently masturbated and it burned during ejaculation (not after) and it burned after ejaculation about 10 days ago. Also, I have a recent history of prostatitis, but my urologist examined me recently and said it doesn't feel inflamed. My doctor told me that I could still have symptoms from prostatitis even though it's not inflamed anymore. But my prostatitis symptoms weren't as persistent in terms of burning during urination, and I never had burning during ejaculation. She also said that my anxiety could be making it worse. I also had the penis swab to check for chlamydia and gonnorhea, and both came back normal. I'm supposed to get tested for herpes again in a couple of weeks (4-5 weeks after contact).
I've been losing a lot of sleep over this, and it's affecting me at work. This is really bad timing for me as I just started at a job I like a lot and I'm about to graduate with a degree in finance. But now, all I can think about is the possibility of having herpes. I'm getting very depressed about it, because I'm not sure how I would explain that to a future love interest
My question to you is, should I be worried that this is herpes? It's really driving me crazy!
P.S. I don't have any other symptoms like flu like symptoms or swollen lymph gland, and there was never any skin to skin contact.
Thank You in advance for your help
Mo