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Testing results -am i responsible
I have been positive for 17 years which my ex girlfriend knew about. I was careful, using condoms and abstaining anytime I felt the least bit off-so to speak. We broke up two years ago and 6 months later she took a test(IGG) which came up .91. The dr. told her she was negative and she also told me(which was nice).
Just recently which was about 18 months after her first test, she tested again and it came up 6.7. I do work with her and remained friends. She confided in me about the positive and reassured me it had to be from someone else-she had a few partners since but did say she always practiced safe sex.
I feel responsible and I guess Im asking if there are chances she just built up more antibodies and I actually gave it to her. Problem is I am dating someone I care about alot and never would want them to contract HSV. Most likely i would walk away from her if I could have been responsible.
FYI My outbreaks occur years apart-the last one almost three years ago. ANd the new partner knows about my ondition and doesnt care but not sure if she understands what it really is like walking in my shoes.
Just recently which was about 18 months after her first test, she tested again and it came up 6.7. I do work with her and remained friends. She confided in me about the positive and reassured me it had to be from someone else-she had a few partners since but did say she always practiced safe sex.
I feel responsible and I guess Im asking if there are chances she just built up more antibodies and I actually gave it to her. Problem is I am dating someone I care about alot and never would want them to contract HSV. Most likely i would walk away from her if I could have been responsible.
FYI My outbreaks occur years apart-the last one almost three years ago. ANd the new partner knows about my ondition and doesnt care but not sure if she understands what it really is like walking in my shoes.
you can't make educated decisions about what precautions to take until you know who has what. since most folks who have hsv2 have no idea they have it until tested, your partner being tested is in both of your best interests. also remember that herpes is not the only std out there, all bases need covered!
how often you have ob's is actually meaningless. You still shed the virus about the same amount whether you have 0 Ob's a year or 10 ob's a year. that's why suppressive therapy helps so much, it reduces shedding by 80-90% on average as well as reduces ob's by 70%.
If valtrex was giving you abdominal pains, give acyclovir 400mg 2x/day a try instead. It's the same medication, just less active acyclovir is absorbed by the body so usually you have less side effects. No worries about liver issues either. We have info on over 25 years of acyclovir without any long term effects ( since valtrex is an acyclovir prodrug, same lack of issues but only 15 years of info on it which is still good ).
how often do you see your partner? if it's once a month or more, might as well just take suppressive therapy every single day.
how often you have ob's is actually meaningless. You still shed the virus about the same amount whether you have 0 Ob's a year or 10 ob's a year. that's why suppressive therapy helps so much, it reduces shedding by 80-90% on average as well as reduces ob's by 70%.
If valtrex was giving you abdominal pains, give acyclovir 400mg 2x/day a try instead. It's the same medication, just less active acyclovir is absorbed by the body so usually you have less side effects. No worries about liver issues either. We have info on over 25 years of acyclovir without any long term effects ( since valtrex is an acyclovir prodrug, same lack of issues but only 15 years of info on it which is still good ).
how often do you see your partner? if it's once a month or more, might as well just take suppressive therapy every single day.
Thank you for your response. I had taken Valtrex quite a few years back and came off it due to stomach pains and the fact that it is processed by your liver. I had a family member suffer liver problems due to taking on going anti inflammatory drugs. I did stay on it for about a month. If I know I am spending time with my new partner or going away with her I do take valtrex a week before and during the time Im away(am I crazy in my thinking) My new partner did not get tested prior, which now in retrospect I guess I should have asked. Its hard enough to explain my situation and then to ask her to get tested. I do understand the whole shedding issue but my outbreaks are so spaced out(1 in a five yr span) I think though after my feelings of potential responsibility, I would rather take a pill with the side effects than deal with the carrying the guilt.
This Forum is a great service for conditions like this. Thank you for the feedback and help and I would like to know if taking Valtrex short term like I take it helps.
This Forum is a great service for conditions like this. Thank you for the feedback and help and I would like to know if taking Valtrex short term like I take it helps.
you aren't likely to responsible for her hsv2 infection. Not many folks take that long to seroconvert. It's more likely she contracted it in the last year from a partner.
why not go on daily suppressive therapy to reduce the risk of transmission to your female partner by 1/2? has your new partner been tested to know what her own status was prior to being with you?
grace
why not go on daily suppressive therapy to reduce the risk of transmission to your female partner by 1/2? has your new partner been tested to know what her own status was prior to being with you?
grace
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