Using Penis Sleeve Extender

[Vcamp1292]

I’ve Been On & Off With This Female For About A Year, She Catches Herpes From Somebody else During Our Off Time.  We Like each other a lot. Im thinking About Buyin a Penis Extender Sleeve To Have Sex With Her. Will It Protect Me From Catching Herpes??

[auntiejessi]

It might. I have no idea how they are tested, so I can't say anything about their reliability, etc.

OR you could learn more about herpes and maybe not resort to that. :)

Assuming she has genital herpes type 2 (if she hasn't found out for sure what type she has, she should - she can get a type specific IgG blood test done), then the transmission stats are as follows:

Ghsv2 transmission, female to male, over the course of a year, assuming sex 2-3 times a week:

Only avoiding sex during an outbreak - 4-5%

Adding condoms OR daily suppression (Valtrex or acyclovir) - 2-3%

Adding condoms AND daily suppression (Valtrex or acyclovir) - 1-2%

At best, I'd assume that a sleeve extender would be as effective as a condom, which is just as effective as her taking daily meds to help suppress the virus. If you plan on being monogamous, you can skip the condom (assuming you have both tested negative for other STDs), or just use condoms. I don't have a penis, so I don't know how a sleeve extender feels, but they look like they reduce sensation for the person wearing them more than condoms would.

[Vcamp1292]

Oh ok but To be honest.  I Dont think i want to take that risk using the extender nor having sex.  I’ll just try to use a dildo for her pleasure and she give me oral  Im. Thinking ill just leave her alone and just be friends no sex.

[auntiejessi]

I'm sorry to hear that.

I'm guessing some of the women you've been with have been on the birth control pill. There is about the same chance that you'd get herpes from her as the chance that you'd get a woman pregnant if she's on the pill. If she takes it like most women do - not at the same time every day, etc., then you have a higher chance getting her pregnant on the pill than getting herpes.

Ultimately, it's your decision, and you have to make the decision that's best for you, and for her. If you're worried about herpes every time you have sex, it's not fair for either of you. Just be decent about it when you tell her, and don't ghost her or anything. Everyone deserves better than that, especially when she was so open with you. :)