herpes? advice needed please

[harasiller]

On March 9 I had sex with my bf (not the first time) we always used a condom. After that it smelled funny maybe bacterial vaginosis. After this I had slight discharge one day. On March 20 I noticed a large bump under the skin on the top of my labia major. It did not hurt or burn. It was large and didn't look like a blister. On March 21 my boyfriend fingered me and said it smelled bad. On March 25 I tried popping the bump because it had not changed and I shave alot. Some puss and blood came out and I stopped messing with it. A few days later it came to a head, itched like a pimple and popped itself then I finished popping it and puss and blood came out.  After this you could barely tell where it had been. I also noticed a small bump on the other side of my labia major towards the back that you could see a hair in again I think from shaving. On March 26 I used a one day treatment for a yeast infection that you insert yourself. My period also came this day. I had slight vaginal burning but not bad. When I looked into my vagina it looked like it has white sometimes think discharge but it doesn't come into my underwear that often. On April 2 my boyfriend and I had fairly rough sex three times. Ever since then I have had intense burning. My whole vulva was red and burned I put desitin on my labia major and that took the redness and burning away for periods of time. When I look at my vulva there is some white looking stuff in it and still looking in my vagina it is white and sometimes can be thick. I've had some itching but nothing major. I haven't had a fever or swollen lymphnodes. The past couple of days I haven't felt good but I believe I have a cold because my throat and ears have hurt off and on I have chest pain I'm coughing alot and alot of drainage and sneezing. Just yesterday though my back between my shoulders started hurting so bad I felt like I could throw up. I also had some dirreah but since I found the first bump I've been having irregular bowl movements I think because my anxiety is so high. I've even had panicking attacks due to this. I've also had some cramps it feels like but I'm on birth control and my period isn't for another two weeks. I'm freaking out over herpes. The first bump started coming back but if I squeeze it puss comes out and it looks just like a hair follicle. But I'm not sure why my whole vulva would be red and burn and why my symptoms would last this long. They've been inconsistent for herpes though but I know it's different for everyone. I'm just nervous because now I have back pain and nausea but I'm not sure if this is from actually being sick. I can't find any blisters or anything but I'm so scared this is herpes. After all this time I am trying to make a doctors appointment but I'm terrified of the results. I am not sure if the guy I was sleeping with has genital herpes. He's the only guy I've ever been with but I am not the only girl he has been with. And I also know oral herpes can be passed through oral sex which we had done before but that was only two short short times clear back in February and he had no cold sores or anything (I know still a possibility though) I've done so much Internet research I have myself scared to death. I feel like an idiot for getting myself into this situation because there was so much I didn't know about herpes before this. It's scary actually. So if there is anyone out there that is experienced and could give me any advice as to if this sounds like herpes at all if really really appreciate it. This would be my first outbreak so wouldn't it be more severe? Thanks

[HowardH]

"Annoying" isn't the issue. It's your health that matters. You're old enough and mature enough to be having sex. It's time to bring your attitudes and behaviors to that level of maturity. You're obsessed about herpes, which is an inconvenience, not an important health threat; and apparently not getting medical care for symptoms that could indicate a vagina infection like bacterial vaginosis, which in turn often goes along with truly serious STDs like gonorrhea and chlamydia. Like all sexually active 17 year olds, you are at high risk for these important STDs, which could quickly terminate your ability to have kids in the future. Being "really scared" is exactly why you need to grow up, suck it up, and get the medical care you need. Just do it.

That's my last comment on this thread unless and until you have gotten professional care and want to report the results.

[harasiller]

Thank you both for the input. I appreciate it. I know my posting so many threads is probably annoying. I am very sorry for that. I'm 17 and scared. I've always tried to take care of myself and it really hit me of how even one choice can change everything. And I also have anxiety so bad that I used to have to take medicine for it until I weaned myself off it for a while but it's like everything is crashing down again once I got worried over all this. The fact that it's been going on for a couple weeks now just really scared me. But, thanks for the input I hope you are correct that it doesn't sound like herpes and again, I truly am sorry for posting so much

[HowardH]

This is the third or fourth time you've been asking the same or similar questions on this forum. Based on all you have said in both the other threads and above, it is very unlikely you have genital herpes.

But you are on the right track to sort it out:  see a doctor! Do not delay further because you are "terrified of the results". You know how dumb that is!  You either have herpes or you don't -- and research shows that when people delay health care because they fear the diagnosis, their anxieties actually decline when they finally get professional advice, even if they have the disease they are worried about (whether herpes, breast cancer, HIV, or anything else). In other words, fear of the result is actually worse than learning bad news!

So stop speculating, stop searching online, and stop asking the same questions on community forums without health professionals, like this one or anywhere else on MedHelp.

In the meantime, do your best to stop worrying about herpes. Your symptoms don't suggest it at all. Good luck!

[Jason_2014]

Well oral herpes is almost never passed through oral sex. Unless it's hsv1 which 80 percent of the population has. As for your bumps, it really sounds like ingrown hairs. Your nausea and back pain sound a lot like what I had. Google signs and symptoms for stress and anxiety and they will fit your symptoms to a T. If you're really worried. Have him get tested and have yourself get tested. This doesn't sound anything like herpes and stay off Google! If they were herpes sores, they would hurt like hell.